Guest List – the co-workers

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MsGinkgo:  Co-workers are not friends.  They are co-workers.  If you happen to develop a genuine friendship with someone you work with – meaning you socialize outside of work in ways that are not work related – then I think its fine to invite that person.  But it would be bad to invite  half the office and not the other half.

I personally don’t think one should invite their boss.  Its taking a business relationship and taking it outside the office for something personal and social.  If you don’t ordinarily socialize with them outside of office functions, why would your wedding be different, you know?  Plus, I think they can feel obligated to buy you a gift and I, personally, wasn’t comfortable with that.  

Post # 5
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3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MsGinkgo:  I think it’s fine for you to invite your bosses and not the others.

Post # 6
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2649 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@MsGinkgo:  If the subject of your wedding comes up in the office, especially if you feel like anyone is expecting to be invited or is fishing for an invitation – just mention casually that you’re having a VERY small wedding.  

Post # 7
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42510 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I agree that a work relationship does not necessarily equate to an invitation to your wedding.

Post # 8
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1193 posts
Bumble bee

@MsGinkgo:  We aren’t inviting current coworkers. Mainly because of that exact issue. To us, it seemed like an all-or-none type scenario to avoid hurting people’s feelings. We just didn’t have the space to invite an additional 30 people (coworkers plus spouses/guests).

However, we both are inviting coworkers from previous jobs that we became and have remained friends with.

Post # 9
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1241 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’m inviting my co-workers. I don’t socialize with them outside of work really, but felt it would be rude to not invite them. However, since we are having the ceremony in a 45 seat chapel, and his family takes up 31 seats, they are only invited to the reception. I figure it’s the best of both worlds, they don’t have to sit through a ceremony, and still get to eat, drink and make merry.

Post # 10
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1649 posts
Bumble bee

@MsGinkgo:  Do not invite them at all: not because it’s a small wedding, but because they are co-workers. Colleagues, even fellow-professionals, are not friends. Use work events and professional meetings to network and build your professional relationships. Use private social events to maintain friendships and personal relationships. Do not mix the two together.

 

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