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We only had 2 people that RSVPd yes not come, but it worked out okay because someone else brought a date we didn't know about. We were aiming for about 120, invited 158 and had 110. For a while it looked like we might get about 130 people, but then all the last RSVPs we got were No's so it brought our number down again. We invited a few people last minute (coworkers and such) when we were sure we had room for them. A couple of them apparently were offended they got late invites, but by that time I just didn't care anymore!
We wanted only 50 people and had heard that 15-20% people invited will say no. So we invited close to 70 and are no ending up with way too may 'yes' RSVPs. Just be careful to not invite more than you would actually want there. It's hard to count on 'probably'.
We sent about 150 invites and had about 20 RSVP no. Then 3 yeses didn't show up.
I think it also depends on where you're getting married. For us, it was kind of desination for many of our guests because they were from out of state (and we got married in Santa Barbara), so a lot of people said yes because it was like a vacation to them.
We invited 375, had 225 RSVP yes, and only ended up with about 195. We had a LOT of no-shows...still pissy about that...
I cant believe people say yes to a wedding and then dont show up? What could possibly come up??
We are in the same dilema though - we are hoping to have 107 (10 tables of 10 and then the bridal table). We have 126 on our list at the moment, but we would be fine if all of them came, so not the end of the world!
@Miss Sydney: I was seriously shocked. Even as our guests were going through the recieiving line, I noticed so many people who didn't show up.
We invited 127 and 92 RSVP'd yes. Then 9 of those people didn't actually show up.
@krystal.keel:We are doing the same thing.
List 1 - parents, kids, siblings, friends, etc that we KNOW will be there
List 2 - Friends and family members that will most likely come but expecting about 5 - 10% to say no due to previous plans or whatever due to when it is.
List 3 - Family and friends that live out of the area that we know are not coming but would be offended if they were not invited.
We are inviting a total of about 75 people (give or take a couple) and planning on a reception for 60 people. Now if EVERYBODY suddenly decides to travel and show up, things will be tight! Since are both encore's, I don't think it will be an issue though. :-)
i think we invited 350 knowing many are out of town and country guests, it's a formality just to send the invite
invited 350, Yes = 280, Showed up = 270
10 no shows. kinda rude since i still had to pay for their dinner which was over $100! i should've justinvited someone off the street and fed them!
We invited about 250, about 200 said yes, and about 14 did not show up. (8 due to health/medical related issues, 2 ridiculous excuse, and 4 gave no excuse at all).
I think the acceptance rate is usually higher when you have such a small guest list - that means that everyone on there is probably very close to you or your fiance, as opposed to distant cousins or parents' friends, etc. We invited 78 and I'm guessing something like 70 will show.
@helenc32: Cool that you guys are doing the same thing. Must be the Florida mentality. :o) Im in Lakeland, date is set for same day (9-10-11). Where abouts are you?
We've just started getting replies back and our wedding is not until March, but right now we're at exactly 50/50 lol
we invited 129
had 110 accept
had 7 no shows
but then had 2 people we didnt invite show up...
ultimately it comes down to a few factors - smaller weddings (less than 100) will have closer to 100% acceptance because you have already pared down the list to all your "must have people" usually closest family and friends.
for larger weddings 200+ the acceptance/show rate goes down (usually around 80-85%) because you are inviting folks who are friends but not best friends, or family but not immediate family.
out of town weddings or desitnation weddings or weddings that carry an expense with them, you can expect a lower acceptance rate.
the rare exception to these guidelines are folks who have LARGE families - they can invite like 300 and have that and more show up.
so it depends on who you are inviting and the place (oh and time - if you do a holiday wedding your rate goes up and down accordingly....)
@krystal.keel:We are in Melbourne. I think you are right about the "mentatility" of it. I have talked to a few people at work and have already started spreading the word that we are having a "very small wedding" with just family and a few close friends because I don't people to be offended they weren't invited. This is especially important since my FI and I work for the same company, same division, same building! We know all the same people through work so I think a lot of people will expect to be invited simply because they work with both of us. I am really surprised at the number of people though that have told me they or someone they knew created lists for invites...yes's, maybe's and "we know they are going to say no but we have to invite them anyway".
How many people do you think you will have at yours?
@helenc32: Well we have it down to 167 (not including kids) and I honestly see only abt 20 of them saying no right off the bat. But sadly, I am hoping that enough say no so that we only have abt 125.
Im still trying to get my FI to cut his list.
Another idea I thought of was sending out a round of invites a little early and requesting a six week RSVP.. then once those are counted, send out another round of invites (if we have enough space) and only request a 3 week RSVP. That way we dont end up with too many people and we still get the opportunity to invite more if we have room.
@krystal.keel:ohhhh...I LOVE that idea! We are sending out our invites the end of June for our September 10th date with a 4 week RSVP. We are doing that for basically the same reason. If we have family that lives out of state that we think are "probably" coming suddenly send "no" to their RSVP, that will still allow me time to invite co-workers that we would kinda like to invite but didn't simply to keep the count low.
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So my fiance and I are working on our guest list.
The problem? We can not seem to get the number right.
How many people (what percentage) of invites usually do not come? Anyone have any experience with this?
We have our list narrowed down to 3 categories...
A-Listers = definitely invited, will attend
B-Listers = invited after A-listers, will probably come
C-Listers = those invited after A-listers & B-Listers if there is any room left. May or may not come.
I would like to say screw it and invite everyone but I am so afraid that with my luck, everyone will show..
Thoughts? Anyone else have this issue? What did you do?