Guest List Worries

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

So sorry this is happening…

I totally understand the feeling, though. We had plans to invite no more than 60.. our guest list is currently 114, and that’s with cutting out most children [not the bridal party children] and not giving plus ones to those not living together or in a long term relationship.

The only thing that makes me somewhat feel better about is is that about 60 of those 114 are from super far away [2500+ miles… one of them from france!], and i highly doubt all of them will show.

Post # 4
Member
1646 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@JessicaJupiter:  I’m sorry that this is happening! We originally had 60ppl. Then both sets of our parents got a hold of the list and now we are at 96!

Post # 5
Member
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@JessicaJupiter:  I’m sorry. I get the big family thing. My husband is one of 6 and my parents are one of 5 and 6. We realized that we just couldn’t have a super small wedding. The smallest we could go would be 100 with no friends. Is it too late to rethink your plans?

I know we came up with a guest list first– once we say that well over 200 people would be invited, a lot of expensive and small venues were out.

Post # 7
Member
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Hey – an extra $300 for an additional 10 or so people is a STEAL.

I had, at some point, considered inviting my coworkers… 9 of them plus guests (18 total) would have cost us an extra $2,500!!

As for the suit, maybe an outlet mall (during a sale) could have a good, new option? FI bought a new Banana Republic suit for $180 once – both pieces were the wrong size (he is very thin), and he had them tailored (at a local seamstress’) to fit for an extra $75. It would have cost him over $400 to buy them at retail costs.
Maybe you could put some Xmas giftcards/money towards that?

Post # 8
Member
3625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@JessicaJupiter:  That’s a good plan. Where we cut money was by: having cupcakes instead of a cake (even from a very well known cupcake store it was still 1/2 of the price of a standard cake), cutting champagne (but check your alcohol package– for us liquor was cheap and we could have top shelf liquor, beer, and wine all night or beer, wine, and a champagne toast for the same price), doing RSVPs via post cards, and making favors very simple (a single candy from a Russel Stover type box)

 

Good luck!

Post # 10
Member
1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Our guest list blew up too 🙁 It is one of the hardest things I have had to deal with.

Post # 11
Member
906 posts
Busy bee

If you want a small wedding I would then just limit the guestlist to just family, and if you do then you need to tell your fi that the wedding will be a family only event. 

Post # 13
Member
906 posts
Busy bee

@JessicaJupiter:  ahh ok. Well you could do family only and friends in the wedding party. But I see what your saying. 

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