Post # 1
Has anyone had one of their guests say they were coming to the ceremony, but not the reception? This guest is coming from several hours away, so it seemed odd to just come for the ceremony. (Plus, this was a deliquent RSVP we had to keep calling about, which makes it a little frustrating!)
Post # 3
yes, we actually have one girl only coming to the ceremony and just like your guest we had to hunt her down to get a yes or no from her. I don’t really care either way because I hardly know her. She’s a friend of FI’s family and I’ve only met her once or twice. I’m actually glad she won’t be coming to the reception because we already have our table seating done so it’d be a pain to try and fit her in.
Post # 4
Yes – a few members of my husband’s family only came to the ceremony. It was some of his cousins, and they also drove from a pretty far distance. The other side of their family had a competing event that day, and they really wanted to come to at least the ceremony, so I thought that was sweet that they made the effort to come to at least see us get married!
Post # 5
It’s for different reasons probably but my father (who is driving 4 hours to the wedding) still maintains that he is only coming to the ceremony but not the reception. I wouldn’t see the point in driving that far only to see the ceremony unless you had something else competing that day as was said and then it would be nice of them to make the effort to come to the ceremony.
Post # 6
We didn’t, but I understand it if they have something else they need to do that day. At least you won’t have to pay for their meal!
Post # 7
we did have 2 people who were going to just come to the reception. It was luck they were going to be in town that afternoon and had a flight to catch out that evening during our reception. We were so glad they were going to come! Plus we didnt have to pay for their meals! ends up… they couldnt make any of it due to travel problems… oh well.
Post # 8
Thats one less mouth to feed! besides, the ceremony really is the main event and I’d rather have people come to the ceremony and not reception than the other way around.
Post # 9
We had two relatives come to the ceremony only. It was due to health reasons.
I’m not sure the reason behind only coming to the ceremony. But I would probably look at it as an honor that, coming from a few hours away, they still felt it was important enough to come to the ceremony alone, than just not come at all. (Honestly, if I had to travel that far and couldn’t stay for the whole thing, I’d probably decline entirely.)
Post # 10
At one of my friends’ wedding, a handful of people did that, and it wasn’t a big deal. At least you save money on the reception!
Post # 11
We had a few people do that. One couple had an event later in the day they couldn’t get out of, but still came to our ceremony (they didn’t RSVP so I had to track them down, but I didn’t mind too much when I found out they were driving 4 hours round-trip just for our 25-minute ceremony!). The other couple RSVP’d yes then told me after the ceremony they weren’t staying for the reception…that one did annoy me.
Post # 12
Like the pps we have had a few people that are only coming to the ceremony. I actually really like those responses because I will still get to see the guests but not have to pay for them 🙂
That probably sounds cheap, but we are in the middle of an RSVP crunch!
Post # 13
At least they are only coming to the ceremony, and trying to come only to the reception! I would appreciate people who wanted to be part of the important part of my day, not just the open bar. But…people are crazy. Who knows why?
Post # 14
Hasn’t happened to me (yet), but I think it’s really nice for them to come to the ceremony.
Post # 15
We have a handful of people we think will probably just come to the ceremony – mostly older people from FI’s hometown, where the wedding will take place.
We are just doing heavy appetizers, so it doesn’t affect our reception too much.
Post # 16
First off, We have the same initials 😀 And yes, numerous people are not interested in celebrating with a bunch of strangers and would rather watch the ceremony, give their private congratulations and a gift and move on.