Guest RSVP'd for an hour???

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

My friend’s girlfriend came to the end of our reception…so she had some drinks, but no food.  It didn’t cost us anything extra.  I didn’t know she had a girlfriend when I invited her, so she didn’t have a plus-one.  

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@smrlovingrl:  if they don’t show up til the last hour, why would you need to pay for them? I assume that dinner will be over by then and they’ll just show up for the dancing part?

Post # 5
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3223 posts
Sugar bee

How will it cost you money?

I think you should ask him to confirm, and then not count her in your count to the venue.

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@smrlovingrl:  Agree with PPs… why would you pay for her after dinner is over?

Post # 8
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9949 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@smrlovingrl:  Why can’t someone just show up late?  What’s your venue like?

Post # 11
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8909 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@smrlovingrl:  I think it really depends on whether your venue charges you pp or whether it’s just the cost of the drinks that get consumed. She’ll probably just have a couple drinks, so if its the latter it shouldn’t make much of a difference.

Post # 12
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518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@smrlovingrl:  I wouldn’t worry about it, and wouldn’t include her in your count.  Other people will have left by then so she can just “take their spot”

Post # 14
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9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@smrlovingrl:  They will replace someone leaving the reception early no doubt so I wouldn’t worry about discussing it with the venue.  If they show up, there should be at least a few empty seats.  If not, then you didn’t go out of your way.

Post # 15
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640 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Is the guy a good friend? I would be really happy that my friend’s girlfriend tried really hard to be there to see us, regardless of when she showed up. I understand being concerned about the money, but you can always check with your venue. Tell them you need one less dinner, and see if it will change the cost. 

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