Guest RSVP'd… plus four children.

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2791 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

Just call her and say there was a misunderstanding and that you’re not having children at your wedding (aside from the 2 flower girls) and that you hope she can still make it. 

Post # 3
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Well since you invited your friend, and sounds like shes a close one, I would just call her up and be honest. Tell her that the only children that are coming are the two that are in your wedding. Good thing is that she has a 17yr old so that one can watch the others 🙂 Explain that the wedding is super small.

Post # 4
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Just phone her and gently let her know that you received her rsvp, and that there must have been a misunderstanding – you are unable to accomodate extra guests. If she says they won’t be able to make it, tell her that they will be missed.


Post # 5
3653 posts
Sugar bee

You’re friend = you’re the one who has to call and tell her that you are having a very small wedding and the invitation was just for her and her husband.

Post # 6
2896 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

just tell them that unfortunately you cannot accomodate any extra guests and/or you are having an adults only reception, but you hope she and her husband will still attend.

we were extremely clear about who was invited to our wedding and we still had people try to bring extra guests. so frustrating!

Post # 7
6697 posts
Bee Keeper

“I’m so sorry, there must have been a misunderstanding! The invitation was for you and John. I hope you can still come.” 

Post # 8
155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

MrsVaccaro:  agree with pp’s… “There may have been a misunderstanding, we cannot accommodate extra guests but would love to see you there”

ugh, the nerve of people. 

Post # 9
10 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969


This shouldn’t even be that uncomfortable.  It’s all in how you phrase it. Don’t be accusatory (e.g., “You should have seen that the invitation was only addressed to you and your husband!), but rather be kind and sympathetic (e.g., I’m so sorry, but because we are having a small backyard wedding, we’ll only have room for you and Mark to be there. I really hope you can find a sitter and will still be able to attend.).

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