Guest should wear the wedding color?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Guests' dresses should match to the wedding colors?
    Heck Yes. : (3 votes)
    3 %
    No way. : (43 votes)
    41 %
    Kind of. It's better if they wear a dress in the same color fmaily. : (1 votes)
    1 %
    Not really. They should avoid the wedding colors whenever they can. : (30 votes)
    28 %
    Doesn't matter. Who cares? : (29 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
    918 posts
    Busy bee

    Hmm, I can’t vote, because I think it doesn’t matter at all either way.  If a guest wants to dress in the wedding colours, that’s completely fine, but it’s also completely fine if they don’t!

    Post # 4
    1040 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I don’t care what people wear to my wedding, but I wouldnt intentionally match the colours if I was going to a wedding. Why would I want to look like a bridesmaid?

    Post # 5
    349 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2008

    I don’t think it matters? I think a few people wore the wedding colors to my wedding and it looked great in the pictures to have a pop of my wedding colors here and there. 

    Post # 6
    1090 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I was pretty embarrassed at the last wedding I went to because I wore a nice royal blue cocktail dress. 

    I was mistaken for a bridesmaid because their colors were royal blue and white. Not cool.

    Post # 7
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Haha such a thing would never occur to me.  Super interesting that she thought she was supposed to dress in your color, though – I’d worry about matching the bridesmaids!  Since our BM dresses are in our main wedding color, it would be a bit weird if someone else wore a short maroon dress, but its not something I would panic about. 

    Post # 8
    2968 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I usually try to avoid wearing the same colour as the bridesmaids’ dresses. Funnily enough, I attended a wedding earlier this year where the bride got upset over the fact that her future MIL was planning on wearing blue, which in her mind was going to clash with the purple and black colour scheme. She also tried to insist that all her female guests wear purple and black as well.

    Post # 9
    8720 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @jess226:  can you add an option for it doesnt matter?

    Post # 10
    2289 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @gelaine22:  +1

    I personally wouldn’t care either way, but if every guest coincidentally happened to wear some variation of one or all of the wedding colors, I think that would be pretty neat.

    Post # 11
    975 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It would have never occured to me either way before I got married.

    We had a small back yard affair ~20 or less.  Everyone asked what the wedding colors were and wore them!  Nothing flashy or to be confused with us.  Seems like it was all either patterns or subdued colors.  A patterned dress here, a shirt there, a tie, etc.  It was really pretty neat.  Except my mom but she’s contrary like that, even showed me what she was going to wear (all black) and I just told her “That’s fine”.  She definitely looked out of place and our photographer got the best picture of her pouting when she wasn’t getting any attention.  We laughed when we saw it cause it is so my mother lol.


    Post # 12
    5087 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I love wearing similar wedding colours, I hate to clash. 

    Post # 13
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @jess226:  FMIL just texted me to verify our wedding colors so she could get her dress to match… Is that normal? It seems a bit odd to me… I think she wants to match in the photos, but I feel like having a slightly different maroon than the bridesmaids would clash more than match!  *sigh*  I told her to wear whatever color she wants.

    Post # 14
    2962 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @JulietFoxtrot:  +1. I was actually shocked when my guests started calling me/emailing me about what are the wedding colors so they know what to wear. I didn’t know the guests were supposed to match. I have never done this in any of the weddings I’ve been to. I just told my guests to wear shades of pink because the wedding WAS different shades of pink.

    Post # 15
    1148 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I have a friend who likes to wear a dress of whatever the wedding color is, or at least has the color in it. I just throw on a nice top, black pants, and out the door I go. I don’t think it’s weird unless someone wears a white dress, haha.

    Post # 16
    9859 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    i’ve heard of brides requesting that everyone where the same colour but I’ve never heard of guests decided to purposely wear the wedding colour.

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