Post # 1
I have a friend who is going through a divorce. I invited him with a guest.
He sent back his RSVP card “Mr. John Smith and guest” 1 beef, 1 chicken.
We are doing individual seating cards for every guest.
So I send him a text and ask what his guest’s name is and he tells me “Sue”. this was a few weeks ago. Great. I make Sue a seating card.
Well, knowing this friend and that he’s sometimes shady and doesn’t follow through, I sent him a text earlier this week before our final count confirming that “sue” is his guest. He says he may bring someone named “mary” now. *headdesk* I tell him to please let me know ASAP so I can make a new seating card if needed.
Then he asks me what the date is of the wedding again because he has to make sure he can get off work!!!!! I tell him and say that I hope he can get off because I already gave the final count to the venue and since he RSVP’d yes, I assumed he was coming. He responded “Oh, I’m definitely coming”. Ummmm, then why did you have to ask what the date is/say you need to get off work.
So, whatever. I am going to make a seating card that says “Guest of Mr. John Smith” and be done with it. I cannot be worried about switching out the card to whoever his flavor of the week is.
and I’m betting he doesn’t even show up!!!
Post # 3
Oh, and this particular guest also sent me a Facebook message that said:
“We stress about the wedding details so much and then 2 weeks after the wedding you will wake up and think “Why the F did I get married?””
Post # 4
How annoying! Some people do not have very much respect of the bride and groom and treat weddings as a just a “party.” We all know wedding are a LOT of work. Lots of blood, sweat and tears go into the planning process and it can be so frustrating when someone reacts in this way.
I think you are doing the right thing Mr. John Smith and guest. You are still being respectful and allowing him to bring a guest, however you do not need to waste even more of your time worrying about names. Hopefully this will prove a point to him.
Post # 5
What a dummy. I wasn’t a big fan of marriage when I was going through my divorce, but at least I knew enough to keep my comments to myself!
Hope he comes through for you two! 🙂
Post # 6
Ugh how annoying. I swear some people think RSVPing yes just means “save me a seat in case I show up”. I had 3 old friends that did this at my wedding and I was pretty miffed about it.
Post # 7
@marthan6: I know, I think a lot of people just don’t realize that if you say you are coming and don’t show…we still have to pay for you!!!