(Closed) Guest Vent

posted 5 years ago in October 2012
Post # 3
Member
368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@phoenixandstars:  So sorry to hear all this drama. We are having the same problem. Most of FI’s family are kicking up a stink because his mum isn’t invited. So we don’t know if they are coming or not. Has totally spoilt the wedding planning experience. I just have to keep reminding myself at the end of the day I am getting married to my awesome man! Hope everything works out for you. I can’t believe people act this way before a wedding. Pathetic!!!

Post # 4
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763 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You are def not alone. The last few weeks will make you crazy. Although, I would reconsider letting your grandpa have his date sit with him.  I would have a hard time if someone asked me not to sit with my date at a wedding where I prob don’t know many people.  Just a thought…don’t mean to stress you out even more! 

Post # 5
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9057 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Awww sweetie, guests are the most stressful part of any wedding.

I ALWAYS tell people to underestimate their guest list just a tad, because people always cancel last minute, but I guess it’s too late for that.  We had 9/91 guests cancel after the final number was given.  Definitely would have been 700 I could have spent better elsewhere if I hadn’t actually told the venue we’d be 83… haha

We actually had two guests attend the ceremony from out of town and then come up to me after the ceremony and tell me that “we don’t get to this area often, and want to go do some touristy stuff to make it worth the trip” and skip our reception.  Wow, so basically you came, looked around and decided to tell me my wedding wasn’t as good as some tourist trap that you have to pay for yourself…. Wow… RUDE.

You’re definitely not alone!

Post # 6
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3682 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Awww sweetie, guests are the most stressful part of any wedding.

I totally agree with this.  That’s why with the exception of our parents, DH and I skipped the guests thing.  We didn’t want to put up with anyone else’s crap.

OP, I’m sorry people are being boneheads and stressing you out (and wasting your money). 

Post # 7
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129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@phoenixandstars:  That is pretty crappy!  Our RSVP date was yesterday and I’m still missing like 15 peoples responses.  so annoying!!

Post # 9
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368 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@phoenixandstars:  HAHA!!! This is what the Bee is for. Don’t worry I have my own thread complaining about FI’s family.

Why people have to cause problems at what should be the happiest time of your life I’ll never know!

Post # 10
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2240 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have had I think 3 people cancel but my FH’s Godfather offered to pay for one of his kids who couldn’t come now.  Didn’t take any money from him though and it worked out that our payment was apparently a little late lol.  They made an adjustment to our new count and we saved quite of money.  Woot!  It was sweet of him to offer but I wouldn’t have taken it.  it is annoying though and then people wanna switch their plus one.  No.  LOL

Post # 11
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9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

TO SapphireSun:  you said,

We actually had two guests attend the ceremony from out of town and then come up to me after the ceremony and tell me that “we don’t get to this area often, and want to go do some touristy stuff to make it worth the trip” and skip our reception. Wow, so basically you came, looked around and decided to tell me my wedding wasn’t as good as some tourist trap that you have to pay for yourself…. Wow… RUDE.

Oh my goodness…

Go do some touristy stuff to make the trip worthwhile !!

Well that one takes the prize for Tacky Guest story in my book.

I don’t even know you… and I am soooo sorry that happened to you… AND the gall, immediately after the Ceremony outside the Church I imagine…

IF ONLY…

Brides / Hosts could send these “turkeys” a bill for Costs Incurred for your Inconsiderate Rudeness !!

 

Post # 12
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7879 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@phoenixandstars:  Sorry, guests cancelling sucks. (hugs)

But, like @Happy2bMrs: ,  I think grandpa’s date should sit with him, and it’s not worth battling over that. At my wedding, my family table had my brother’s gf of about a month, and I think I’d met her once by then. It is true they were together for about 2 years after that, but I had no way of knowing at the time. We survived.

Post # 14
Member
105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Our final guest count went to the venue last week. This week, I was told by FMIL that two additional people are coming. I freaked out about having nowhere to put them and considered adding another table just for them to sit at… and then one of my co-workers told me he and his wife are no longer coming! Guess that worked out? 

I’m just too paranoid to start making my escort cards! It feels like the guest list will NEVER be finalized. Plus there’s all those guests/plus ones out there that I don’t have names for…

Post # 15
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know how you feel.. But the issue I had is people who are not guest that are offended that they are not a guest…. and then making the comment of “All Weddings are buffets anyway so there will be plenty of food for you to invite me”??? WTH???

Post # 16
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883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@phoenixandstars:  We had the same problem, can you call and change the final count?

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