Post # 1
I’m curious on your opinion regarding guest attire. A guest wore a cream dress to my wedding. Now, I didn’t think it was a big deal….it didn’t look at all white to me and I know you’re not supposed to wear white to a wedding. However, certain family members have mentioned how inconsiderate the guest was and that it was much to close to white.
Now I have a gorgeous cream dress that I was thinking about wearing to a friends wedding tmr. It’s definitely not a white dress, but I don’t want to offend anyone!!!
What do you gues think?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t wear it. As the bride I’m not sure I would really care much. But as a guest I always think it’s poor manners when other guests wear white, ivory of cream.
Post # 4
I dislike it and wouldn’t recommend it. Even if you don’t have intention of upstaging the bride, you never know what she or other people might think…I say if there is a doubt, don’t wear it.
Post # 5
Personally, as a guest, I wouldn’t wear a dress color that looked similar to the bride’s. As guests, there are so many options to choose from whereas a traditional bride really only gets to pick from a few choices in the white/ivory family. However, if the bride is wearing a significantly different color (Offbeat Brides featured a bride in red that wanted all her guests in white recently) then I think cream is okay.
Post # 6
I think if there’s any question about whether or not it should be worn then it should just not be worn. I think I would give some strange looks to someone wearing a cream dress at a wedding. Sure, it’s not white, but it’s still too close.
Post # 7
I don’t mind if the mother of the bride or groom wears something in ivory like Diane Keaton’s character did in the Father of the Bride, it was elegant but didn’t upstage her daughter. However, I really think that as a guest it’s not appropriate and would suggest something else.
Post # 8
I wouldn’t care at all, personally. If people show up wearing white, off white, or any variation thereof, I’d not have a problem with it.
Your bride friend might be weird about it though, as it seems many people don’t like it. If you’re close with her, I would call and make sure it’s okay. Otherwise, maybe wear something else (as much as I hate to say that).
Post # 9
I think this is getting silly, myself. I mean, I think it would be rude for you to show up in a wedding dress. A solid white dress might make me think you were a little clueless (but I wouldn’t consider it rude unless you had clearly done it to upset the bride). But apparently the ban is now white, ivory, and cream. Probably pale yellow is next on the chopping block, or maybe lighter beiges.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Maybe you can pair it with a brightly colored cardigan? How well do you know the bride? Who cares what the other guests think, only care what the bride/groom think! 🙂 If you have any doubts, it’s better to be safe than sorry, though.
Post # 11
Honestly, i dont care what people wear to a wedding. No one will get you confused with the bride unless you are in a gown.
Post # 12
I never really worried about this before, but last weekend DH and I went to a wedding. I had 2 dresses to choose from: one was a navy blue wrap dress and the other was a black dress with white flowers on it. DH was appauled that I would think of wearing a dress with any white on it. He was so funny. I never thought guys even thought of this stuff, especially him being the uber-masculin hunter, fisherman type guy.
We got to the wedding and 3 women out of a guest list of 40 were in white or white-ish dresses.
One was a knee length off white lace dress
One was in a white floral patterned dress (ok)
The other was in a vintage white tea length dress, which totally could have been worn as a wedding dress.
Only the one with the floral pattern would be anything I’d even consider wearing as a guest.
I don’t know what the bride thought, but I heard several comments from guests about the inappropriatness of 2 out of the 3 girls. I would be so embarrassed.
Post # 13
I’m thinking that perhaps “cream” really was the wrong term. It really is more of a champagne/nude colour. Which is why I think it’s not at all similar to white.
I honestly wouldn’t think twice about it if I hadn’t heard some of the comments made at my own wedding. Personally, I wasn’t offended at all by the colour of the guests dress (almost identical to my own dress I am debating on). I guess if I am even slightly hesistant I will avoid wearing it.
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I think we have created an artificial hysteria over wearing anything even close to white. If you are super concerned, call the bride. I wouldn’t have cared, and I would tell my own friends and family if the criticized someone who wore cream to my wedding that theyare being overly judgmental. I’d tell them that I was offended that they thought that person came anywhere close to lookinglike the bride while I was the one standing there in some 3 or 4 thousand dollars worth of clothing, hair, makeup, and jewelry.
Post # 15
If you think it would bother you if someone did it at your wedding, don’t do it. If you think it would bother the bride, even a teeny tiny bit, don’t do it. If you think other guests would consider it tacky on your part, don’t do it.
Post # 16
At the last wedding I attended, there were FOUR women wearing white sundresses. Not white with patterns – plain white. No one seemed offended and no one could confuse them with the bride.