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OMG hunny, don't even worry about it. Designers make more than one, so there's bound to be more than one girl wearing it. She had her day, now it's yours! If the dress makes you feel gorgeous and you love it, then wear it. 
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I would not worry about it a bit. It's not like you could have known, nor will every single guest from her wedding be attending your wedding. (To be honest if I went to a wedding today and saw the bride wearing the same dress as a wedding I went to a year ago, I probably wouldn't even notice! I'd probably just think it was similar, if I even noticed the similarity at all.) You have never even met her, so it certainly wasn't intentional. She'll probably actually be excited to see someone else have such wonderful taste :-)
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You love your dress and that is what is important, put it out of your mind! Don't worry about it IF she's offended that's her problem. Also just because she wore that dress doesn't make it any less your dress, if you love it and it gave you that wonderful, this is my dress feeling, then that's what's important, its YOUR DRESS!
You picked the dress. You loved it. You should keep it!
The only person that will even notice is the bride who wore it to her wedding, and I definitely don't think she'll be offended (it just means you both have good taste!). You obviously didn't copy her (you didn't even go to her wedding, so she won't even know that you've seen her dress), and you should stick with the dress you picked out. Some elements of your wedding are inevitably going to be like someone else's wedding, so don't worry about it!
I would feel flattered if someone else wore the same dress. Don't worry about it AT ALL!! Your dress is gorgeous!
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Thanks so much ladies! I feel so much better. I think if it wasn't me with this dilemma I would have given the same advice. Thanks for bringing me back some sanity! :)
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i'm with everyone else... KEEP THE DRESS! And I must say... it's GORGEOUS!!
But if for any reason, this little dilemma starts to bother you again, think of putting little personal touches to your dress. Two of my gfs (one from TX and one from VA) had the same dress and got married a year apart. They know each other only through me and have only met once. They weren't at each others' weddings, but they saw the photos through me of each others' weddings! The one that got married the year after decided to add a sash and a broach to her dress to make it slightly different but it still came out terrific!
HTH!
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I agree keep it! It would be so weird if she were offended that you both liked and bought the same dress. And chances are most of your guests didn't go to her wedding so it will be new them, and unless you are doing the same hair, same accessories, and have a very similar shape, you'll be able to make it your own. I think it's a great dress, definitely a keeper.
Keep the dress definitely. Make it different by using another type of veil or hair ornament and maybe some colored shoes and different type of bouquet.
Each bride imho makes her look her own. Each day is unique, no wedding exactly alike.
Dont worry about anything!
I think its completely fine. It's not like your sister/close friend wore the same dress. It's someone you've never even met before! It is a beautiful dress!
The dress is beautiful! You should definitely wear it. All it means is that there will be a woman at your reception that has as good of taste as you do!!!!
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Definitely don't change your dress. Where it because you love it!
That dress is beautiful! And I'm sure she won't care... after all she picked it because it was a beautiful dress for her too. She will probably think you're awesome to have the same dress as her. Wear it proudly!
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I say keep it! You'll look totally different in it than she will after you have all of your accessories. At least you both have good taste :)
I think you should wear it.
Two of my cousins (on different sides of my family) wore the same dress. Out of my immediate family (mom, sister, father) who attended both wedding 6mo apart, I was the only one who noticed (because I was a BM at the first wedding and am wedding obsessed).
Even after I mentioned it to my mom she didn't believe me until we later looked at pictures of both.
The bride makes the dress!
If it comes up, just tell the other bride, "When I notices we had the same dress I thought to myself- You have excellent taste!"
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I would keep it, but tell her in advance, so it won't be a surprise that day?
MissCamera,
I am SO GLAD I am not the only one this happened to.
I was at my FI's cousin's wedding in September (3 days after I purchased my wedding dress after 6 months of lusting after it), and when she started to walk down the aisle, I thought I noticed that she had the same dress. My heart began to sink as she walked down the aisle and I noticed that she really did have my wedding dress. I don't know quite how to explain the pain I felt at that moment...it was so incredibly hard to watch someone walk down the aisle in the dress of your dreams, and I felt like I was going to pass out. It was very difficult to sit through the whole wedding with a happy face while you watch someone take their first dance, etc., in the dress you dreamed about wearing for so long.
I decided to tell my FI's mom and sister since all the same people would be at our wedding in May (since it is my FI's cousin) and I didn't know if I should mention it to the bride the next time I see her. I didn't want her to think I had copied off her dress, and I didn't know how I would get through their wedding without telling someone.
Needless to say, that day seemed to last forever. But my words of advice are as follows:
Hang in there, sweetie. I know how this feels.
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Haha...Two of my friends got married last summer 2 weeks apart and were guests at each others weddings. They each --without each other's knowledge-- chose the same dress! They were fine with it. As long as you chose your dress because you love it, there's no reason not to! That should be the reason you wear it, not choosing something else just because someone you know wore it, too!
I dont' think you should worry about the fact that you'll be wearing the same dress that she wore. I'm sure you won't be wearing the same shoes, hairstyle, accessories, etc, and even if you were, you're totally different people. You'll carry yourself differently and thus look totally different in the dress than she did. I'm sure you'll be beautiful, and guests who notice shouldn't say anything anyway. Plus, if they do, are they really the type of people whose opinions you care about?
I hope this helps! Good luck!
PS - Beautiful dress! That pattern is amazing!
Oh, and the other bride should consider it a testimony to her good taste that you both chose the same gown! I was recently at the bridal salon where I bought my gown, and another girl was trying on the sample and strongly considering it. I thought I'd feel jealous or protective, but I was thrilled for her! It was like finding out that someone else shared my favorite movie or wine. I was happy to share how wonderful it was rather than protective of trying to keep it all for myself. I'm sure your friend should have the same feelings. :)
To be honest....no one will remember what she wore - except you and her! Plus, the exact same dress can look totally different on different people.
You love it, it makes you feel great... SO, WEAR IT!!!
(and try not to even think about it on that day) I know, easier said than done!
By the way, the dress is gorgeous!!
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I got married last August and one of my BFFs from college told me she bought the same exact dress for her wedding a year later. I was shocked at the coincidence. Just means we both have great taste!!!
You had no idea that she had the same dress, definetly wear it! Its a gorgeous dress and you picked it for a reason. Just dont tell your FI if you want it to be a surprise :) Plus, it will look completely different than it looked on her Im sure.
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The same dress can look completely different on two different people.
I agree with the other girls. It is "THE" dress for a reason, rock it :)
oh honey! You wear your dress and look fabulous in it! You shouldn't have to change anything about your wedding because someone else loved your beautiful dress so much that they wore it too!
wear the dress -- its obvious that it isn't a blatant 'dress steal' and even then, it doesn't really matter... dresses look different on different brides anyway!
Your dress is beautiful ... I say wear it, if nothing else she should be flattered or think it is funny (especially since you had not seen her in her dress when you got yours!
wear it, it is a beautiful dress. dont make any decisions off of assumptions b/c she might just feel good knowing someone has as good taste
LOL... this thread is 3 years old! i think the bride has worn the dress already by now (wore it back in 2009, according to her wedding date posted)... ;) teehee...
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I need some opinions on my current wedding "dilemma" as I'm not sure what to do.
My fiances friend recently got married this past summer. We weren't invited to their ceremony, but they ended up having a reception a few months later that my fiance was invited to but I couldn't attend because I had previous plans. His friend recently posted pictures from their wedding on myspace the other day and being the wedding obsessed engaged woman I am I took a look. Well I found out that my fiances friends now wife wore the EXACT same wedding dress that I plan on wearing. I am in love with my dress but once I saw that she had already worn it to her wedding my heart sank a little. I had yet to see someone else where my dress, and now a future guest at my own wedding will have already worn it.
I guess my question for you ladies is... would it be wrong for me to wear the same dress.. given our weddings will be about a year apart? Do you think she would be offended seeing me in the same dress? I've actually never met her before so I don't know what she'll think.
Now I'm wondering if I should purchase a new dress as to not offend anyone.
This is a picture of my dress.
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