- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
So fiance and I had our Guestlist done but this week we got an invite from his 1st cousin to his wedding.
As a background, his dad is adopted and is not close at all with his adoptive sister. His dad’s adoptive sister has 3 children and the youngest is getting married and sent us the invite. I have never met them and fiance hasn’t seem them in at least a decade.
On our guestlist was FFIL adoptive sister and husband but not the children because there would be 6 of them, none of them I have met and FI hasn’t seen them in at least a decade. We are also having a fairly small wedding of 75 people and had to cut alot of friends in order to accomodate that (we both have alot of family and that was the smallest we could get it).
We will have to RSVP no to their wedding because FI has a school commitment that weekend.
FMIL is now insisting we not only invite the adoptive sister and husband but all 3 of their kids and their SO…adding 6 people to our guestlist. It will add a whole other table and cost us about $650 to accomodate the extra 6 people. Her reasoning is that they invited us and we have to invite them and we can’t just invite them we now have to invite the other 2 siblings.
I want to just say “we are having a smaller and more intimate wedding then them so no, we are sticking with only the adoptive sister and husband and not their children, regardless of their invitation to us”.
BTW, FI and I have been together for 9 years and the invitation was addressed to “FI and Guest”…they do not even know my name and to me, I only want people there who know both our names and have met us.
What should I do? Add the extra people or tell FMIL “Tough Sh!t”?