- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
We’re having a small-ish wedding. Trying to keep it around 80 people. Our closest friends are all in the wedding. The rest of the friends we want to invite and FI’s family were easy.
THEN we get to my family and I’m totally stuck. Specifically with my mom’s side. We used to be really close – but after 1.) a cousin who I considered to be my bff royally screwed me over and 2.) my grandmother died, we’ve all drifted apart. One of the problems is my mom, sisters and I are not afraid to talk about it when there’s a problem – but the rest of them like to sweep it under the rug and pretend nothing is wrong. So when we’re together (which is RARE), I play nice and just try to get along with everyone, but it doesn’t really feel like “family” anymore.
I recently decided that I’m definitely inviting my grandfather and his wife. It just seems wrong not to – I was always so close to my Pop-pop before all of this happened…
This is where I’m having a problem: Do I invite my Uncle and his wife? I don’t really talk to them much – I mean, we saw them last year once and they’re both on my FB page – but we still don’t really talk. And if I invite them, what about my cousins? His son got married last year and invited FI and me. We didn’t go, but my mom and sisters did. And if I invite him and his wife, then I have to invite my uncle’s wife’s daughter too, right? And what about my female cousin who I haven’t seen in forever and has been in and out of rehab?
Then there’s work. I work at a law firm and have been here for almost 5 years. I know I’m inviting my immediate manager, because she and I are friendly aside from work. But what about the partners? Specifically, the equity partners? Do I have to invite them? Is it rude/unprofessional if I don’t? And I’m thinking about looking for a new job anyway…can I just NOT send them a STD and see how I feel when invite time comes up?
Sorry for the long, semi-senseless rant. Just need to get that out and FI is no help AT ALL. He says just do whatever I want to do. Ugh! lol