(Closed) Guests!!!

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Standard estimate is 20-25% of invitees won’t accept. So if you want 300, you can invite up to 375. But you have to be OK with going over.

Post # 4
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This never seems to be accurate, but I’ve seen online that about 10-20% will RSVP no, but you can’t rely on that and in your case, that wouldn’t even get you to the # where you want to be.

On another note…I don’t even know 500 people…where did you find all these folks?!!?

Post # 5
3697 posts
Sugar bee

That depends on a lot of different factors. How many of them are local? How likely are people to travel to attend? Are “tiered invitations” acceptable in your area? (Generally yes in the UK, no in the US … not sure about Canada.)

You and your Fiance might want to start by dividing your list of 500 into the “must-be-invited” list and the “wish list.” (I find those to be better ways of thinking about it than “A-list” and “B-list.”) First invite the people that you have to include so as not to cause offense (i.e. family members, close friends, maybe parents’ colleagues, etc., if your parents are helping to pay – you guys will have to make the call as far as who is a “must invite”). Then see how much space you have to include people from the wish list, and as R.s.v.p.s come back in, for anyone from the “must invite” list who declines, use it as an opportunity to include another “wish list” person.

By The Way: Welcome to WeddingBee!

Post # 7
12877 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We had about 70-75% of invited guests come to the wedding, and that involved significant (500+ miles) travel for most of those guests.  Don’t invite more than your venue can hold!

Post # 10
7234 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@felicia1985:  For some areas/cultures/families tiered invitations (inviting some people to dinner & dance, some to just the dance) is perfectly normal. For most cultures in the US this is considered rude or at least really weird. Apparently in the UK it’s perfectly fine. Have you ever been invited to that sort of wedding in Canada? What do your parents/close friends say about that? If it’s normal in your area that’s probably the best way to go. I don’t even think my church holds 500 people, so I don’t know what on earth I’d do if I were you. I thought my 200 person list was huge. 

Post # 12
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@felicia1985:  I’m not sure about Canadian customs/etiquette, or if they differ. IMO, you can’t invite certain people to some parts of the wedding and not others.

Post # 13
671 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013


I am from Canada, and ya its bad etiquette to invite someone to one part of the wedding and not the whole thing.

Post # 14
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@alleycat1984:  I think that really just depends what the norm is in your group of friends and family.  Our group of friends have never done that but plenty of people I work with and/or know from University consider that the norm

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