Guests addresses and contact information

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@gigglez0612:  We made a little website on  There’s an option to ask for phone numbers too, but we didn’t choose to do it.  Our guests are all comfortable with the internet, so it was an easy choice for us.  So far it has been super easy.

Here’s ours.

Post # 4
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I asked my friends directly, found the ones that were listed in the phonebook online, and then asked my parents and FMIL for any other family addresses. You may have to just call/email people if they aren’t listed in the phonebook.

Post # 5
1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@gigglez0612:  I’ve seen people post on facebook “need your addresses!” and that always seemed strange to me, because I’m sure people who aren’t invited to the wedding would see that and send their info.  I posted a few things over the past couple of years trying to gather addresses for Christmas(/holiday, sorry) cards, and also gathered addresses by borrowing my mother’s address book.  I used our Christmas cards as a means to check addresses and get updated addresses.


Now that we are getting closer to actually sending wedding-related mail, I made a new spreadsheet tab for the addresses (the guest list was already in an Excel spreadsheet) where I will also keep track of RSVPs, who needs to be invited to which events, gifts, etc.  Any guest addresses that I am missing, I will ask the appropriate family members (delegate to moms, etc.) to collect for me, or send them a private message on facebook/email for friends/coworkers (delegate to FI his side, etc.).  I’ve been asked many times for my address from friends and it’s kind of nice because it lets me know to expect the invitation!

Post # 6
1290 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@jdhall89:  That is so cute! I’ve never heard of that site before!

Post # 7
361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@gigglez0612:  We sent our Save the Dates via Paperless Post, which asks for guest addresses and tracks them in a spreadsheet.  Then we ordered paper copies of the Save the Date for family members who wanted them.  Good luck!


Post # 10
490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I just asked for the addresses I needed from the people I needed them from, or asked people who would know (in the case of two of my dad’s friends).  My FMIL gave me a list of people with addresses, and FH is hand delivering to all/most of his friends.  I had two people refuse to give me their addresses, saying they didn’t even want to be invited to my wedding if I was inviting another friend of mine whom they didn’t get along with, but other than that I had no problems.

Post # 11
8498 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My mom gave me all of our family addresses.  I think most she either had (from Christmas cards, etc) or asked for.

I got all of my friends via either FB messages or text.

FI got a lot of his through FB message or by calling/text.

Just something you have to do.

Post # 12
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My family:  addresses already known

FI’s immediate family:  addresses already known

My and FI’s friends:  either we know already, or we can easily ask via FB/text or in person.  I’ll take care of everybody but the 4 people only FI knows.  He’ll probably FB them after much nagging.

Friends of my family:  my mother and I will work together to figure these out

FI’s extended family:  this is all on FMIL.  If she can’t figure out their contact info (which is entirely possible since it took her over a month to add them all to the list and half of them don’t even have both names listed!), it’s no sweat off my back.  They’re only on the guest list because she insists it would offend them if we didn’t send an invitation.  Le sigh.  

FMIL’s friends:  again, FMIL will be responsible for this info

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