Guests asking to exchange their husbands for another guest on the invite list.

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should we allow out of town cousins to replace their husbands with another guest?
    Yes, Let him come to the wedding, it is still one less guest. : (17 votes)
    43 %
    No, you don't have to extend the invitation to him. : (23 votes)
    58 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    805 posts
    Busy bee

    I think your reasoning is completely fair. If you had loads of cash spare then it might not matter so much, but if you’re trying to keep numbers down then it makes sense to not invite the father.

    Post # 4
    Member
    11242 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would respond that your invitations are only for those listed and are not transferrable.

    Post # 5
    Member
    1064 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    For my own wedding, I have plenty of seats and I’ve told people that they are welcome to bring a buddy if their SO can’t make it.  However, if I had limited seating, I would absolutely not be inviting whoever the guests want to invite along to my wedding.  It’s a wedding, not a happy hour.  Spouses/SOs are social units, dads and BFFs are not.

    Post # 6
    Member
    3683 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I would apologize and say that invitations are only extended to those actually named on te invitation.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2651 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    You don’t have to, but I probably would.  They are all travelling from Georgia and I think it would be a very nice gesture/thank you for attending if you let them bring their dad.  They might not have much time to visit with him otherwise.

    Post # 8
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    6061 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2017

    @abbybee:  I wouldn’t allow it. Your wedding is not extra time for them to be able to visit with their dad, it’s time for them to celebrate your marriage. If they want to extend their visit time with their dad they can do it on their own time. If you already are over budget and have already cut people who you would have probably invited had it not been for budgetspace issues than that makes this even more of an easy answer in my head. I would simply say that we have a very strict guest list so only guests we specifically invited are going to be able to attend.

    Post # 9
    Member
    452 posts
    Helper bee

    @vorpalette:  “I would respond that your invitations are only for those listed and are not transferrable.”

    That right there! ^^^ Just like plane tickets …

    And let them know you have a few close friends who initially were cut due to venue space limitations, and you had planned to extend the invititation to them first in the event of any declines.

    Post # 10
    Member
    2211 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @abbybee:  What did you end up doing?

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