Post # 1
I have a couple who are some older family members who rsvp’d to my wedding no. They never sent in their RSVP, I had heard through other family members that they were telling them they weren’t coming and I finally tracked them down in a phone call. I have a distant relative who suprised everyone by saying they are going to fly out for the wedding and we are super excited. Now, I get a phone call from the couple saying that since X is coming into town, we better come to the wedding. Of course I let them change their mind but RSVPs were due already and I already turned in numbers to the venue. I’m upset because they are only coming because of the other family members and not because I’m getting married. Thanks for showing my level of importance to you!
Post # 3
Wow, I’m sorry these people made you feel unimportant. That was extremely rude of them. Have you mentioned it to your parents or other family members to see how they feel? Obviously you can’t uninvite them, so I guess just try to take comfort in the fact that there are lots of other people who do think you’re important and are very excited to attend your wedding. Or if you’re feeling spiteful, you might mention to an older relative (preferably a gossipy one) what happened and see how long it takes for this story to circulate. 😉
Post # 4
So rude! It’s your wedding not a family reunion. I think you did the right thing by letting them change their RSVP.
Post # 5
It’s so mature of you to let them change the RSVP even though they are being rude. Family gets so silly and has so many little dramas when a wedding is involved, don’t they?
@McVerde: Ha, that is an interesting way to release some spite.
Post # 6
@Pupperoni: Maybe they knew they couldnt afford to attend the wedding and felt bad about the possibility of not having money for a gift. (it does happen)They probably have not seen that person nor will in the near to far future. Whatever the reason I wouldnt feel bad about it, you did the right thing.
Post # 7
It’s rude for sure, but I think you did the right thing and handled it in a mature fashion.
Everyone has those weirdo family members who seem to have no common sense or tact. It wasn’t worth arguing about it with them, so just move on and focus on the important things. 🙂