(Closed) Guests complaining about wedding..want to cancel

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Cancel it and spend on eloping and a nice honeymoon instead! Sorry you have to go through all this. It will all work out in the end though.

Post # 4
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3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Each on their own, nothing of this is that bad – more thoughtlessness. However, bundle them all up & I can see why you’re feeling both hurt & rejected. I would weigh pros & cons & then cancel if you think it will continue like this/get worse.

 

Best of luck!

Post # 5
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4496 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

WTF? How much notice did you give them? I understand if someone can’t afford/find a flight short notice, but it sounds like people are just being difficult in general. Complaints about it being the last Saturday of the month? So you’re suppose to plan your wedding to make it convenient for someone else’s schedule? Um no. I would cancel and enjoy your elopement. Use that extra money on your honeymoon or a romantic long weekend. I wouldn’t put up with that crap.

 

Post # 6
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3429 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mseagles:  You’ll get through this. if you planned on a date and time stick to it! Screw those who complain about! The ball is in their court either they attend your wedding or they don’t. Dont let these people bring you down! this is your wedding and planning it is supposed to be a happy time for you. Consider going the selective hearing route…When someone bitches and complains, end the conversation..You really have enough on your plate and there is no room for other people’s bullshit! Right?

Post # 7
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7992 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

To be honest, I would just cancel and enjoy your elopement.

Post # 9
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4496 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mseagles:  In that case I think they had plenty of time to sort things out in prepartion for a close family member’s wedding. Id just elope.

Post # 10
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1257 posts
Bumble bee

I agree with other posters. I’d cancel everything, elope or go to a JOP with FI, then not be bothered with everyone for a good, long while, if at all.

Post # 11
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155 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m confused do you have a wedding planned but now you are thinking of eloping. Or do you have an elopment planned but you are intending to have a big 5000 dollar party after the fact?

 

If it’s the former. Do let family and freinds stress you out to a point where you dramatic alter what you want to suit them.

 

If it’s the later than don’t bother with the party. You will already be married and it’s a huge waste of money to have the party if it’s not attached to the wedding. I can kind of understand why guests would be luke warm about attending when it’s just a party and not the actual wedding. I wouldn’t take time off of work to go to someone’s at home reception either. I was actually really offended the one time I was invited to someone’s reception but not their wedding.

Post # 12
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3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Girl have a WeddingMoon and call it a day

“Why didn’t you invite us to celebrate with you?”
“Cause you were making my life HELL!” 

Post # 14
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196 posts
Blushing bee

@mseagles: 

I’d just cancel and wash my hands of everything.  If anyone’s bought plane tickets or made hotel arrangements already (and can’t get refunds), I’d hang out with them for the weekend and treat them to an awesome dinner.

 

Post # 15
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348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Another vote for cancelling the dinner celebration. If it’s not giving your or anyone else the warm fuzzies, spend that $5,000 on really, really awesome honeymoon and/or fancy up your romantic elopement!

Post # 16
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185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If your FI wants a wedding, then he should be able to have that.  You don’t want to have him living with that regret.  It’s about him, too.

As for the people that suck in your life… stop listening.  Send invitations.  Whoever comes, comes.  Whoever doesn’t, doesn’t.  Celebrate with the people that want to be there and don’t waste your energy on the people that have their own agendas.

Marry the love of your life.  The few hours of the wedding will pass.  You’ll say I do, have a wonderful kiss, a nice meal, pretty pictures, and then the day will be over.  I’ve been through a lot of crap since we got engaged – lost most of my friends, family issues, venue issues, caterer hell – but I found a way to get back to happy and I can’t wait to marry this man now – with less stress, with whoever shows up, with whatever food is there…  and I’m sure you can get there, too…

Good luck!

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