Post # 1
I hate to be concerned about presents people don’t even have to give…What should we do? We have a website, but the wedding is a small church wedding with the reception in the church, so it’s not like we have an excuse to say “check out our website for updates or more info!” Etiquette says not to put registries in the invites, so we didn’t, but we also couldn’t mention our website. I don’t think anyone’s asking my mom or FI’s mom. It probably sounds horrible to be worried about this, and normally I don’t think I would be. It’s just that Fiance and I are really just starting out, and sincerely need all this stuff.
How do I tell people, or should I just trust they’ll find at least the Macy’s one? What will people normally give if they can’t find a registry?
Post # 3
@sweetpea87: I think most people who use the internet will easily be able to find your registries on theknot or wedding channel.
But if they don’t find your registries, they will most likely give you cash I would think…so you can use it to buy all the stuff you didn’t get!
Post # 4
I usually misplace the website and end up checking the usual suspects: Macys, JcPennys, BedBath&Beyond, Crate&Barrel, William Sonoma, regional suspects (e.g. Nordstrom’s, Bloomingdales), etc. I wouldn’t worry if you have at least one major location (e.g. not something like REI, which some friends of mine have one), and people can always ask your family.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t be too worried about it. Have you checked the registry to see if anyone has purchased anything? Usually when I forget where people are registered I look online too, or ask the family. I also know a lot of people who just get giftcards or give cash.
Post # 6
I went against etiquette and included it on a small card in my invites because I had several guests who don’t have/wouldn’t use the internet, and didn’t want them calling my mom or Mother-In-Law, both of whom have wonky hours. I personally think it’s more rude to make your guests search online for your registry/call around rather than just include it.
So I would probably just put a small card with where you are registered on it.
Edit: just saw your wedding date and realize your invites are sent. Some people will find your registry and gift from that, but others will probably give cash or random gifts. Even with the registry info, we still got household items (that we registered for) from completely different stores (and styles) or gift cards to other stores.