(Closed) Guests dropping off 4 days before the wedding!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ugh that sucks! I’m afraid this will happen to me too. I have some out of town friends that are known for being flakey. They swear they’ll be there but they never mailed back their rsvp and I had to track them down so I will not be surprised if they say they can’t come at the last minute or even no show.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

flakey butts. i’m sorry! but think… FOUR DAYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Don’t worry about who won’t be there and just try your best to relax in these next few days…. b/c I’m sure there are plenty of real things to worry about.

Truth is some peole won’t come even though they did send back the rsvp… and really it won’t be until after the wedding when you and your DH are talking through the day that you realize it.

No biggie…. 😉

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@dotdotdoodlebot: yeah it happens 🙁 I think its extremely rude too.

 

about 17 people who rsvp’d yes just didn’t show, one had an emergency but I was kind of upset about the rest…especially those who didn’t say anything after not showing, not even congrats or I’m sorry I couldn’t make it!

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It’s extremely annoying because everything is so expensive and extensively planned out. I had a couple who told another guest the night before that they weren’t coming….but never told me. They were friends of my mother and they never got in touch with me or with my mother after the wedding with any explanation. I also had someone who told me right after the church ceremony that they weren’t coming to the reception because their husband was picking them up early. Then there’s the people who RSVP their kids and then don’t bring them and you realize you pre-paid a $40 kid’s meal that you ordinarily wouldn’t pay more than $6 for (chicken fingers, fries, fruit, salad).

Point being: people will do this and more. It’s totally outrageous and it is annoying. However, on the day of your wedding and the days before your wedding just let it all slide off your back. The money is gone, there’s no use in letting their being inconsiderate ruin your outlook on the day. Besides, the people who do end up coming will still make your wedding a blast!

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Heatherloveskenny: yup, the ones who say nothing before or after are the worst. No card, no text, no gift, no sign of life…except you know that they know how to communicates because they RSVP’d. I think some people feel bad about saying they can’t come, so they RSVP yes…except they don’t realize it’s about a million times worse than just saying no upfront because then not only did they miss your wedding but they cost you $100+ a pop and helped you start your married life with a little less money for absolutely no good reason but their lack of “cajones”. (okay, end rant Embarassed)

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Well… at least your guests aren’t dying…  which is what I thought you meant by, “dropping off.”  =)

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

That sucks. i hate when people do stuff like that..esp for weddings because they know how expensive they are per person!  I have this fear and nightmare that people will simply forget to show up and/ or not tell me etc..I think it happens to everyone somehow.. there is always going to be someone who bails out at the last minute or something crazy happens!

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