Post # 1
My FH and I decided that we really want to get married in Kauai. Basically, where we live, it was simply cheaper to smoosh together the ceremony and honeymoon in Kauai than it would have been for us to rent an outdoor venu to hold the ceremony and then plan a honeymoon.
Since Kauai is so far away, we will be having a reception in our home town about a week after we come back so that everyone can celebrate with us without having to worry about the expense of a trip.
The problem is that we don’t want anyone to purposely feel excluded from our ceremony, so I would like to include something like “you are invited to the ceremony if you are able to attend, but don’t feel like you are obligated since we are having a reception at home” but I’m not sure how to word it.
Does this all make sense? Perhaps I’m just making it into a bigger deal than it is and should just invite the guests to the reception only. If I put something like “we are getting married in Kauai!” people should understand, right?
Any advice? 🙂
Post # 3
@mandajwach: You don’t need to mention that you know lots of people won’t be able to make it.
You could do your RSVP
____ See you in Kuai
_____ See you at home reception
_____ See you at both
______ Don’t wanna come at all.
Post # 4
How about just “You’re invited to our ceremony in PLACE on DATE and reception in PLACE on DATE. We would love to have you at both but understand if you wish to attend the reception.”
Post # 5
@mandajwach: If I was invited to a DW, I would expect a reception not just a ceremony. I kind of feel if you ask people to travel that far, you need to provide them a reception while they’re there, but that’s just me.
Post # 6
Who’s going to the DW? If it’s strictly family, you don’t have to send invitations to everyone and expect them to go to your AHR as well. Just send invites for the AHR and word them as follows:
Bride name & Groom Name Married on x date @ x location
Please join Mr. & Mrs. X for a celebration of their marriage on X date @ x time / location
They’re basically wedding announcements.