Post # 1
The title says it all. I have a friend who I invited with her live in boyfriend. No problem. She is bringing her two small children. No problem. She asked me to send an invite to her parents, which isn’t a problem either, she is a long time friend. Now she is saying she is going to extend the invite to her brother and sister. This is where I draw the line. How do I politely say that they are not invited? Obviously we are on a budget.
Another instance of this is where my FMIL’s friend who isn’t married put under “Number of Seats to Reserve For You” as 4! I dob’t even know who these other 3 people are.
Any advice? I don’t want to be rude about it, they probably just think it’s a big party and the more the merrier?
Post # 3
Wow, you seem very calm, this would annoy the hell out of me! I’m all for inviting partners, but if someone wants a big knees up with all of their family and friends, they get to host it, not turn your wedding into it!
Post # 4
Well, at least in the case of your friend, she’s asking?
I would just explain to her, as kindly as possible, that you can only invite a certain number of people to the wedding due to size constraints, and you’ve already hit your max. Since she is a long-time friend, she should hopefully understand.
I had a friend who wrote in her sister to her RSVP without even asking, even though she was clearly not given a +1 of any kind. I had another friend who wrote in her boyfriend’s kid even though our wedding was child-free. :/