- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2016
I have to share a little laugh I just had with myself, Bees. Tonight I went out to dinner with my parents, sister, and two cousins. My cousin (a guy) was talking about his new girlfriend, and how excited he is to bring her to the wedding, etc. Um…huh? Originally, when I sent out the save-the-date, it was only addressed to him, without a plus 1. Same with my other two guy cousins. Since then, however, I suppose cupid really got to work because everyone seems to be in a new relationship. Which is great for them! I am so happy! But it’s NOT great for my budget haha or guest list numbers. Of course, I’ve decided to invite the new girlfriends to the wedding to be respectful, but I certainly don’t have to, especially since the STD was clearly written out to each of my COUSINS only, and not to any additional guests. This same thing happened with a college buddy of my fiance’s. He responded to a FB message that I sent requesting his address, and he responded that “my girlfriend and I are so excited for November, and are really looking forward to your wedding!”. Again, I’m sitting here thinking, HUH? Since when does everyone just assume they can bring a plus one when an invite or STD is clearly addressed to just them. Like I said above, my fiance and I want everyone to have a great time and feel as comfortable as possible, so we are honoring all of the people who are in new relationships to bring along their plus ones, even though our original intention was to keep it limited to engaged/married couples (it was tough, but we felt we had to draw the line somewhere). Now, however, we’ve changed our mind and decided that hopefully more out of town guests will decline, allowing for these extra plus ones. Hopefully it will all work out.
But, anyway, the funny part of this whole thing is this: we Brides spend endless hours sitting here, stressing about potentially breaking the teeniest tiniest, practically non-existent Ettiquette rules, worrying about possibly offending guests, etc. We blog about it endlessly, create polls about it, and what’s so funny is it obviously doesn’t matter for the most part! LOL. If a majority of your guests don’t even realize that it’s rude to invite your own plus one to your wedding, I doubt anyone will notice a bridal registry faux pas or a non-traditional wording on the invitation, or another guest at the wedding who is wearing white. hahaha. I’m not offended, just baffled that so many people are clueless, and also amused at myself for becomign so consumed with all of this wedding etiquette. Just thought you all could share in my chuckle, and remember, if something doesn’t go as planned, or you feel like you may be breaking some cardinal wedding rule, chances are, your guests are TOTALLY clueless! LOL.