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Guest's rsvp-ing no 7 months out!

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    Mrs. Starfish    03/27/2010   Myrtle Beach, SC

      I came home this weekend to go dress shopping! I got to go to my cousin's wedding while I was here too! It was great to see all of my family but at the reception I had several close family memebers tell me they would most likely not be able to attend my wedding in March. I knew with chosing to have it far away that it may happen and understand it was just hard to hear it from some of my favorite aunts/uncles/cousins. It ended up totaling about 21 people and the last people to tell me were my cousin and his long time girlfriend.... I actually cried a little in front of them. I feel so horrible for making her feel bad. I really do understand it is just hard to hear over and over in one day and handle it well in person. At least with RSVP's I'll be at home and have Mr. S to tell me it will be okay and it will still be just as great. :(

     
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    Aw, I'm sorry to hear that! As sad as you are to hear that some people won't be able to make it, remember it's still a ways away! They may change their minds once the date gets closer and they get a concrete invitation in the mail! Also, another positive is that the fewer guests that come, the less you have to PAY! I'm actually praying praying praying that a bunch of our out of town relatives DON'T come to try and keep our budget in check....But it is definitely disappointing to hear family members saying they can't come, is it a budget thing or timing or what?

     
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    WDWBride    March 3, 2010   Walt Disney World

    Yes!! Although we are having a destination wedding...I have an aunt that before the STD's even went out told me don't I know our whole family are teachers and why would I get married on a Wednesday and no they won't come.  Also once the STD's went out she told me AGAIN she's not coming.  UGH!!

    Sorry you went through that!

     
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    cheerful    September 2009 - eloped  

    Oh, I'm sorry that it all happened by a number of people in a row and in person too. 

     
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    GaBGal    September 25, 2010  

    I'm sorry you had to deal with it bombarded at you one after another. It does come with the territory of choosing an out of town wedding though. I'd almost prefer to know so far ahead of time that way if there is someone you couldnt possibly imagine not having there, you could work to find a way to get them there, ya know?

     
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    jingle96    May 28, 2010   DW in ARUBA/livin' in VA

    I could understand how it would be hard to hear it in person.  We are also having a DW, but we already figured that a lot of our guests won't be able to make it.  It comes with planning a DW.  Just figure that they'll be there in spirit and the smaller wedding you have the more INTIMATE right?! 

    Just have a party back home with your closest family members!

     
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    lobster    August 2010   New York, NY

    Sorry that this happened to you! And at another family member's wedding too...the bottom line is, you only want family at your wedding that want to be there. You don't want to hear them complaining about going to a destination wedding. Then after all your family that didn't go see the great photos and fun, they'll regret not being there. It's still hard to hear it all in a row. Lots of hugs your way!

     

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