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    Br1tSh1n1ngStar    10/17/09   New Jersey

    suck. We put our final headcount and payment in for our venue. That night literally that night, 2 people called us and cancelled, than yesterday someone else called and cancelled. I'm not sure if I can get my money back or not, the place is closed today so I guess I'll have to try tomorrow. I mean really.

     
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    gamblina    October 29, 2010  

    ugh! that does suck! hopefully you'll be able to catch them in time to make your changes and not be charged. i have friends who had a few guests just not show up! who does these things??

     
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    CorgiTales    February 1, 2011  

    Ugh. They do suck. 

     
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    We had 20 no shows at our reception costing us $1500.  Seriously sucked.

     
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    Noelle-a-Belle    October 16 2009   Southern CA

    People don't realize that weddings cost a lot, and it's not like a restaurant where you only pay for who is there.  Especially if they have never planned any kind of event......I fully anticpate a bunch of our guests not showing up because that's what happened at my sister's wedding too. 

    It's a jerky thing to do, for sure, but it's not bc they are trying to be rude, they are just ignorant about 'final counts' and stuff like that.

     
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    What?! I can't imagine people RSVPing to a wedding and then just not showing up.  My fiance did a last minute cancellation for a wedding of a good friend of mine, but he had a good reason - his dad had died the night before.  Short of something like that, I think it's pretty inexcusable.  Thankfully since most our guests are out of town they've already bought a plane ticket and reserved hotel rooms so they'd be out more money than us :-)

     
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    lilyfaith    June 23, 2012   Lakeview, Chicago

    That happened at FSIL's wedding - the worst part was, one guy was originally invited, and they let us know within the last two weeks he couldn't come. We straightened it out with the country club, but a week before his girlfriend came and begged us to let her bring him, he didn't have to work anymore... strings were pulled AGAIN and he was let in - the guy never showed! His GF is one of FMIL's employees... FMIL made no bones about it that if she ever sees him again he owes her $300! 

     
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    KMSull    August 7, 2010   Lexington, KY (via Atlanta, GA)

    My boyfriend just went to a wedding on Saturday where 3 of his friends bailed on the wedding of one of their best friends! I cannot even imagine how angry I would be if I were that bride. RSVPing and then not showing up is one of the rudest things I can possibly imagine and it makes me so mad that I know at least a couple of people that will do that to us and there's NOTHING we can do about it!

     
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    Br1tSh1n1ngStar    10/17/09   New Jersey

    O and FI's dad, that morning in passing said one of his friends won't be bringing a guest, like he wasn't even going to tell us, I am just getting so sick of this whole thing, it needs to be over.

    FI's dad is starting to royaly tick me off basically every time I talk to him, i hope i can avoid him long enough till the wedding so I won't freak out

    Sorry I guess that should be another post.

    @<span style="font-size: x-small; color: #81a026;">angelbaby1968 O my gosh that really stinks

    @<span style="font-size: x-small; color: #81a026;">Noelle-a-Belle  Normally I would agree with that, but the one lady's daughter had just gotten married like a month or two ago, she knows all about head counts.

    @<span style="font-size: x-small; color: #81a026;">lilyfaith Love it, he totally should pay

    @<span style="font-size: x-small; color: #81a026;">KMSull That is so rude and I agree it ticks me off so much

    I lost my veil the other day (i found it eventually), I wasn't even mad, but those people just made me so angry

     

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