(Closed) Guests that don't give a gift

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Tar and feather them! Laughing

You do not need to send a TY. The reception itself serves as appreciation for them being there. You can if you want to, though. I did not.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would send members of your wedding party a thank you card for supporting you during your wedding, at their own expense probably.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Oh yeah, I read over that part. Definitely thank your bridal party for standing up with you and any emotional and/or manual support they provided!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Sunshine09:  Yes, the thank you cards are for attending your wedding, not just for the gifts. Also your wedding party did alot for you, make sure they get very thoughful thank you cards.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

@drummerbride:  Unfortunately, this is not the most polite way to handle things. Thank you notes are for a gift.  The reception (and your verbal thank yous at the event) is the thank you for attending.

Sending a thank you for attending note can and will appear to some guests as a “where is my gift, hint, hint” note.

Post # 8
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Newbee

I don’t think it’s necessary to send TY cards to guests that didn’t bring a gift…as previously posted, the reception is a good way of saying “We’re so glad you were able to celebrate with us!”. 

As for the wedding party, I’d consider their gift as when they gave their time and support (emotional, practical, monetary, etc.) to you and your husband during your engagement and on your wedding day.  Any gift beyond that is completely up to them, and even if they end up not giving you a card/gift, I think it’d still be nice to send a TY note for playing such an important role in your wedding.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I didn’t realise that wedding party were expected to give gifts… afterall they seem to buy their outfits (in the US anyway, not where I’m from), give their time etc.. and they have to give a gift on top of that?

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