Post # 1
Just wondering how to handle wedding guests that don’t give a gift?
We had a few people come that gave us nothing, not even a card. 3 of these guests were in our wedding party, 2 bridesmaids and a groomsman.
Do I still send them a thank you card?
Post # 3
Tar and feather them!
You do not need to send a TY. The reception itself serves as appreciation for them being there. You can if you want to, though. I did not.
Post # 4
I would send members of your wedding party a thank you card for supporting you during your wedding, at their own expense probably.
Post # 5
Oh yeah, I read over that part. Definitely thank your bridal party for standing up with you and any emotional and/or manual support they provided!
Post # 6
@Sunshine09: Yes, the thank you cards are for attending your wedding, not just for the gifts. Also your wedding party did alot for you, make sure they get very thoughful thank you cards.
Post # 7
@drummerbride: Unfortunately, this is not the most polite way to handle things. Thank you notes are for a gift. The reception (and your verbal thank yous at the event) is the thank you for attending.
Sending a thank you for attending note can and will appear to some guests as a “where is my gift, hint, hint” note.
Post # 8
I don’t think it’s necessary to send TY cards to guests that didn’t bring a gift…as previously posted, the reception is a good way of saying “We’re so glad you were able to celebrate with us!”.
As for the wedding party, I’d consider their gift as when they gave their time and support (emotional, practical, monetary, etc.) to you and your husband during your engagement and on your wedding day. Any gift beyond that is completely up to them, and even if they end up not giving you a card/gift, I think it’d still be nice to send a TY note for playing such an important role in your wedding.
Post # 9
I didn’t realise that wedding party were expected to give gifts… afterall they seem to buy their outfits (in the US anyway, not where I’m from), give their time etc.. and they have to give a gift on top of that?