Guests want to stay in our house/camp in yard on wedding night

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I would never go for this, you aren’t obligated to host them for the evening. They need to arrange for a cab service if they are really unable to have a designated driver. Hold firm. 

Post # 3
42166 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

sarah74:  Just tell them “Hey guys, are you serious? It’s our wedding night and we don’t plan on sharing it with anyone, even our closest friends and family.”

Have you checked out the cost of providing a shuttle to the nearest motel?

Post # 4
5208 posts
Bee Keeper

sarah74:  I would say that you should maybe provide transportation for people so they don’t drink and drive. Then they would have no reason to stay over.

Post # 5
851 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

wow…… people asking to stay in your house?  That is insane…..

I would tell them no….. a big giant no………..

Post # 6
2055 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

A resounding NO to those that wish to invade your privacy on your wedding night. Sorry, but 20 minutes away isn’t a big deal, and a shuttle is a perfect solution. Look into it. That way, you’re still taking care of your guests and maintaining your sanity. Don’t waver to them. This is YOUR wedding night. Protect it! 🙂

Post # 7
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes, a circulating shuttle to/from hotel  makes perfect sense. 

Post # 8
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

You could contact transportation services and rent a school bus to make trips to the nearest accommodations with blocks for guests.

In my area, there are Designated Driver companies like Keys to Us that you can rent for special events. I believe it can range in price depending on how many drivers you want and how far they are taking the guests, but I believe they start at $200.

You could combine these as well, have a bus for out of towners to the hotel and DD service for those that live closer that don’t want to drive.

They give you peace of mind that your guests are safe, but you get your much deserved privacy.

Post # 9
1248 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

sarah74:  If you can afford it maybe put on a mini bus back to the town where most of these people live/where the motel is? That way they can drink if they wish but you get out of them staying over at your house. It is rude of them to ask really – I would never think newlyweds want a bunch of drunk people staying in their house/yard on their wedding night!

Post # 10
2174 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

No, you do not have to let them stay.

You don’t have to even provide a shuttle! It would be a vet generous thing, but 100% not required. They are adults. Then can act like it and figure out their own transportation.

Post # 11
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would hire a school bus that continually circulates back and forth between hotel and your home. 

Post # 12
3018 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

If it isn’t too expensive, I would do a shuttle for them that drops off at a central point – “town” makes me think they should be able to walk home from where they get picked up/dropped off.

if it is a little more expensive than you would like –  then hey, you are already paying for booze. You can always offer to let them know who lives near them to carpool.

Post # 13
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

i would tell them no they cannot stay. however are you serving alcohol at your house for the wedding or is someone coming in with a liquor license to do so? if you are serving you really should provide a shuttle for your guests back to the town for liability reasons. if one of them got in an accident drinking and driving and died they can potentially come after you financially. many people who throw weddings or even large parties at their home without a liquor license get insurance. it runs around$200. you really want to protect yourself.

Post # 14
20 posts

Yes, it does sound unreasonable of you. Sorry, but this should of been a consideration when you decided on a rural, at home wedding. You cant expect people to “celebrate you” & then just cut off the hospitality when the bar closes. Just sounds super selfish to me.

Post # 15
2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

sarah74: get a shuttle back to town. Problem solved.

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