Post # 1
I’m going to a wedding on December 29th this year, and I’m at a bit of a loss as far as attire goes…I know the Bees can help me out with this one.
For the reception (cocktail hour to start at 7pm), the bride has specified that she’d like guests to wear New Year’s Eve inspired attire. She’d love if all of her guests were wearing colors like black, gold, silver with festive details like sequins and glitter. Basically a NYE party, wedding style.
Of course, this sounds like a lot of fun! However, I’m a bit concerned because the ceremony is at 2pm in a church. I don’t know about everyone else, but I’d feel a little funny sitting in a church in the afternoon, in a gold sparkly dress with pumps on. I’m thinking of wearing something more conservative to the church (I’m thinking a modest pant or skirt suit) and then using the gap to get ready for the evening reception.
Would you wear two different outfits? Is this etiquette-friendly? I’ve heard of the bride wearing two different dresses, but I don’t believe I’ve heard of guests doing the same. I’d love to hear your opinions/experiences with this. Help!
Post # 3
That sounds a little bizzarre. I’d definitely stick with something that works day into night, unless you’re staying really nearby and can conveniently get back to change. But most people dress up a lot to weddings, including dark colors, and it all works out.
Post # 4
While you certainly could change, for myself I wouldnt bother. I would probably wear whatever I was going to wear that night and throw a cardigan on over it or wear a pasmina etc.
Maybe I would change my shoes as well from flats to heels.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Hmmmm interesting. If I were invited to this wedding, I personally MAY wear a different outfit to the ceremony and then change into the fun NYE party outfit for the reception since there is a gap. Me personally, I wouldn’t mind and I would find the whole thing fun! I’m a very go with the flow person.
But I do feel like some guests could be a little offput at being told what they should wear, and it may make some guests uncomfortable if they can’t change (or don’t want to). If you didn’t want to change, I would say wearing flats and a nice blazer/jacket/bolero for the ceremony, with very little jewelry, and then amping up the accessories for the reception could work too. Sort of like this, just imagine it with a sparkly dress:
Post # 6
Given the large gap between ceremony and reception, and the specific instructions from the bride to dress for a NYE party atmosphere, in this particular instance I would change. Hope you have convenient access to your hotel or wherever you’re staying for the event!
Post # 7
I wouldn’t bother changing from my church outfit unless the bride provided a hotel room for me to change in. I would switch out shoes though.
Post # 8
@ThreeMeers: That is an excellent idea! I’m sure that a belted cardigan and some flats would tone down the look of the dress at the church.
I’ve actually never attended a wedding where I wasn’t in the bridal party (and therefore told what to wear…) so I guess I’m just overthinking/over-worrying. I read so much about brides being upset by their guests’ outfits and I don’t want to be “that girl.”
Edit: Thanks for all of the great advice, everyone! I’m sure this is going to be a fun wedding–I can’t wait! =)
Post # 9
I’ve changed for receptions before based on the time between the ceremony and reception. Usually, I’ll do a cardigan and less dressy shoes for the ceremony and then for the reception I’ll ditch the cardigan, put on a fancier heel and put on some dangly earrings.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
I’ve done a mid-day costume change for weddings before! In my family, everyone has gotten married in the catholic church, and there is usually a very large gap in the day. I think you will find in this case, LOTS of guests will be changing. It seems like the bride expects you to, doesnt it?
Post # 11
When I first read your question, it sounded bizarre. I had images of an attention seeking guest swapping outfits, which I thought was totally inappropriate. So that explains how I voted in the poll.
However, now I’ve read your post, I would totally change. You need to be covered up for church, and the bride has requested something specific for the evening and left a big gap to allow you to do just that. I’ve never done it before, but in your case then I would either change the whole outfit, or follow Sunnyday278 ‘s advice.
Post # 12
We were at a large wedding last May which had a large gap between the ceremony and reception. We were some of the only guests who DIDN’T change.
Post # 13
If there is a large guest I think it’s perfectly fine and probably expected.
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I never have, but i can see why you would want to in this situation. You’ll need to fill the gap anyway, so why not?
Post # 15
I wore a dress to an outdoor wedding but brought pants for later when it got chilly also I have bever been told what to wear to a wedding and find that odd.
Post # 16
Lots of varying opinions here — I love it!
@lovelynners: A little strange, right? The wedding I was in this past May, it was highly encouraged that guests should wear pastel colors (but I was a BM, so that was easy). And now this wedding has a color palette as well…interesting trend!