(Closed) Guests wearing different dresses for ceremony and reception?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Have you worn a different outfit for the ceremony and reception as a guest?
    Yes -- I always change for the reception : (8 votes)
    6 %
    Yes -- in certain cases : (31 votes)
    22 %
    I never have, but I wouldn't be against it. : (41 votes)
    29 %
    I never have, and I don't think you should. : (21 votes)
    15 %
    No -- too much effort for someone else's event : (39 votes)
    27 %
    No -- not enough time : (2 votes)
    1 %
    Other (please explain below!) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    That sounds a little bizzarre. I’d definitely stick with something that works day into night, unless you’re staying really nearby and can conveniently get back to change. But most people dress up a lot to weddings, including dark colors, and it all works out.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    While you certainly could change, for myself I wouldnt bother. I would probably wear whatever I was going to wear that night and throw a cardigan on over it or wear a pasmina etc.  

    Maybe I would change my shoes as well from flats to heels.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    Hmmmm interesting. If I were invited to this wedding, I personally MAY wear a different outfit to the ceremony and then change into the fun NYE party outfit for the reception since there is a gap. Me personally, I wouldn’t mind and I would find the whole thing fun! I’m a very go with the flow person.

    But I do feel like some guests could be a little offput at being told what they should wear, and it may make some guests uncomfortable if they can’t change (or don’t want to). If you didn’t want to change, I would say wearing flats and a nice blazer/jacket/bolero for the ceremony, with very little jewelry, and then amping up the accessories for the reception could work too. Sort of like this, just imagine it with a sparkly dress:

    Post # 6
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    349 posts
    Helper bee

    Given the large gap between ceremony and reception, and the specific instructions from the bride to dress for a NYE party atmosphere, in this particular instance I would change.  Hope you have convenient access to your hotel or wherever you’re staying for the event!

    Post # 7
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    2448 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I wouldn’t bother changing from my church outfit unless the bride provided a hotel room for me to change in. I would switch out shoes though.

    Post # 9
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    3001 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’ve changed for receptions before based on the time between the ceremony and reception. Usually, I’ll do a cardigan and less dressy shoes for the ceremony and then for the reception I’ll ditch the cardigan, put on a fancier heel and put on some dangly earrings.

    Post # 10
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    911 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

    I’ve done a mid-day costume change for weddings before! In my family, everyone has gotten married in the catholic church, and there is usually a very large gap in the day. I think you will find in this case, LOTS of guests will be changing. It seems like the bride expects you to, doesnt it?

    Post # 11
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    When I first read your question, it sounded bizarre. I had images of an attention seeking guest swapping outfits, which I thought was totally inappropriate. So that explains how I voted in the poll.

    However, now I’ve read your post, I would totally change. You need to be covered up for church, and the bride has requested something specific for the evening and left a big gap to allow you to do just that. I’ve never done it before, but in your case then I would either change the whole outfit, or follow Sunnyday278 ‘s advice.

    Post # 12
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    1102 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We were at a large wedding last May which had a large gap between the ceremony and reception. We were some of the only guests who DIDN’T change.

    Post # 13
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    3569 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    If there is a large guest I think it’s perfectly fine and probably expected.

    Post # 14
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I never have, but i can see why you would want to in this situation. You’ll need to fill the gap anyway, so why not?

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I wore a dress to an outdoor wedding but brought pants for later when it got chilly also I have bever been told what to wear to a wedding and find that odd.

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