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As busy as us brides will be on that day, I'm sure you wouldn't notice if everyone showed up naked.  I personally don't think that rule is important to me.  Not to mention, I am wearing an ivory dress.

I don't think I would mind much. I actually wanted my mom to wear a black dress (she had tried it on in store and I lovveedd it) but she said I'm not in mourning, I'm happy, so absolutely not. Settled for a deep purple. I personally love black and wear it all the time (I think I have worn it to weddings, oppps)! As for white, I think its very obvious who the bride is, but I can see how some people might not like that. I've never worn white to a wedding, nor would I, but I don't think I'd mind if someone wore white to mine (as long as they weren't wearing a wedding dress!)

I like that little rhyme!  This reminds me of a wedding I attended in spring a few years ago.  I think it was in mid April and almost everyone at the wedding was in bright cheery spring colors with the exception of one very stylish table from Washington D.C. who were all in the classic little black dress with the men in very handsome black suits.  They really were well dressed and no one really thought that it was in poor taste for them to be in black, but for most of us it was the first opportunity to wear something vividly colorful in months that wasn't a turtleneck or made of wool, cashemere or some woven heavy fabric, so the contrast of the groups made the out-of-town guests really stand out!  My friend (the bride) has been a lifelong friend so I knew that this group was filled with her friends from her job, and I found myself chatting with them, and they were so kind but I remember knowing that they felt a little funny that they were in drab colors.  We tried to reassure them that the locals didn't think they were being rude, we knew that they wore something classic and elegant, and that our dress was so very different because it was finally spring!  I think it's a good idea to let people know what type of outfits are acceptable at different wedding venues.  I think that in major metropolitan areas a little black dress is nearly always acceptable, but in small towns, most guests look at weddings as an opportunity to dress up and they tend to be in brighter tones, and save the little black dress for the funeral home.   

The little poem might be a great reminder to print out and pin up inside your own closet door, as a reminder that your hosts may care what you wear (to any event, dinner parties and funerals included) and that you have the choice of taking that into consideration any time you dress.

Printing it out and sending it with your invitations is something you would want to do with great discretion. For example, slip it into ONLY those envelopes going to someone whom you believe to be at risk of dressing inappropriately, whom you don't mind offending, and who won't see it as ruining the tone of your elegant invitation and party.

I find cute rhymes of any sort to be incompatible with graciously tasteful invitations, and I would find dress-instructions from someone a third my age to be frankly impertinent.