(Closed) Guests wearing white/ivory to a wedding OK or Not??

posted 8 years ago in United Kingdom
  • poll: is it ok for guests to wear white to a wedding?
    yes, if they have checked with the bride and she doesn't mind : (14 votes)
    18 %
    No, its a unwritten rule, white/ivory is for the bride only : (64 votes)
    82 %
  • Post # 3
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    1120 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I wouldn’t wear white to a wedding either, but if someone had worn white to mine I wouldn’t have cared. As long as it’s not a long white dress with a train. 😉

    No one will confuse her with you, the actual bride, so I wouldn’t worry about it.

    Post # 5
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    900 posts
    Busy bee

    At least its a suit.  And not a lace dress.  I wouldn’t stress about it.  She probably didn’t do it to show you up but rather because she liked the way it looked on her and wanted to look wonderful for your special day.

    Post # 6
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    2342 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Yeah, I wouldn’t wear white/cream/off white anything to any wedding, except my own.  Do you think that maybe your mom or sister (if you have one) would talk to her about it.  She could casually ask her what shes wearing and then your mom would tell her that its a unwritten rule to wear white at a wedding, only the bride.  This might be a way to avoid confrontation and avoid hurting her feelings.

    Post # 7
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    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think its tacky.  But she’s wearing a suit and not a white gown, so I wouldn’t worry.  

    I think the rule originated when wedding dresses were white dresses, not elaborate gowns.  Then, it would be easier for a guest to be mistaken for the bride.  Now that really isn’t a problem.  

    Post # 8
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    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    One of my friends wore a formal white dress with rhinestones to my reception and when I went to say hi to her, she excitedly goes “Oh my gosh we almost match!!” Yeah, I laughed with her but I wasn’t amused! It’s not like it ruined my night or anything but she should have a clue that brides and their guests shouldn’t “almost match”!

    One of my other friends wore a white dress with a large pink flower print all over it–that was totally fine.

    I just think people should be really careful wearing white to other’s weddings. I think it depends on what it is exactly.

    Post # 10
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    1455 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Hopefully she’ll wear a colorful shirt underneath the suit. I agree- people should steer clear of it if possible!!!

    Post # 11
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    11327 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    It is in poor taste for her to do that… but I doubt anyone will think she’s the bride… let it go 🙂

    Post # 12
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    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would never do it, but I wouldn’t mind if someone wore white/ivory to my wedding as long as it didn’t resemble a wedding gown!  😛

     

    Post # 13
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    2634 posts
    Sugar bee

    Eeeekkkk – I wouldn’t do it, but like everyone else said, at least it’s a suit. 

    Post # 14
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    647 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Oh my gosh, this wedding I just went to this weekend….this chick the groom works with has a huge thing for him, and its way obvious, so the bride isn’t crazy about the groom hanging out with her, but they do work together…anyway, she wore an ivory dress on purpose and it was really tacky (especially since I’ve seen how this girl acts around the groom, she’s always throwing herself at him even when his wife is right there).  The groom told her she couldn’t come to the reception unless she changed clothes and then she showed up in all black…so awkward….in conclusion, white or ivory is definitely for the bride only, jsut a courtesy thing in my opinion.

    Post # 15
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    1371 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Funny story, we saw pictures of my dad’s brother’s wedding recently and my mom was wearing a cream dress!  When we pointed it out she got really upset, because she had only had one other dress at the time and the morning of the wedding she put it on and the elastic inside disintegrated and she could only wear the cream dress.  She cried and apologized to my aunt profusely.  I think my aunt just laughed!  I wouldn’t worry about it, since it’s a suit and she’s your aunt.  Things are less strict nowadays anyway, many people wear black to a wedding and colours to a funeral without thinking twice.  Don’t let it bother you!

    Post # 16
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    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    If it bothers you then talk to your aunt about it. I wore a white and black dress to a wedding last year – but I did check with the bride first and I knew she wasn’t wearing a white dress (she ended up wearing gold which was stunning) but it’s a nice to ask.

    As you’re very close to her, if it really bothers you, maybe suggest going shopping together to buy something for her? 

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