(Closed) Guests who are exes…

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m inviting 3 couples who have broken up (2 within the year, 1 that was well over 4 years ago). I spoke with all the girls (who are my friends) and my Fiance spoke with all the boys (his friends). Everyone was super understanding and were prepared that their ex would be attending the wedding.

If you and Fiance want G there, you should definitely invite her. Now that G is aware S is dating again, she will be prepared beforehand and have already braced herself to see S and her new girlfriend. And, I’m sure G will put aside those feelings to make sure you and Fiance have a wonderful wedding. 

Just speak to them both and let them know you are inviting them. I also made an exception to the “no plus one” rule for split up couples. It sucks to be newly single, going to a wedding and seeing your ex there. If you can bring a friend or a new date along, it helps.

Post # 4
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I would invite G and let her decide for herself if she is comfortable coming. She must know S is coming, so if she is uncomfortable going, she can RSVP no. It’s really not your job to make those decisions for her. If you would invite her regardless of this break-up situation, you should invite her despite it. And don’t worry about being drawn into the drama on your wedding day. You will not have a minute to even notice if G is having issues. The only advice I have about mitigating any problems would be to not sit S and G at the same table if things are still rocky a year from now.

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