Post # 1
My husband and I opened our wedding cards and gifts and we noticed that a couple of people either didn’t give us a card altogether or they gave us a card but there was nothing in the card and there was no gift to accompany it. We arent really sure how to approach this…do we still send a thank you card?
Post # 3
we had one who did not give card or a gift so we did not send a thank you card. we did send a thank you card to on of my husband close coworkers who could not make it who gave us a card, but other then that we did not send any thank you cards to people who just gaves us cards….
Post # 4
I’d send a card and thank them for attending the wedding and celebrating the occasion with you.
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Post # 6
I would send thank you cards to anyone who attended, honestly. People spend more time and money than you would think to attend your wedding. People also send gifts a little bit later down the road, or have ordered them from a registry so something might be on its way. Regardless, it is an honor to have people take time out of their day to celebrate with you, so I would thank them for that at the very least, especially if they took time to get a thoughtful card.
Post # 8
@MadameTussaud: Exactly! gifts are not mandatory. Sure, it is nice to give one, and nice to recieve one, but really! You invite your guest to come and celebrate and be a witness to your marriage–I think gifts are really just a bonus. I’d send a card and thank them for being part of your day.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Yes, you send them a thank you card for attending the wedding, something along the lines of:
John & Diane,
It was so wonderful to see you at the wedding. Paul and I were so happy you could share in our day; we have so many wonderful memories! Once we are a bit more settled, we should get together for dinner or something soon.
All the best,
Paul & Mary
Post # 11
I agree with pp to send everyone who attended a thank you card. You never know what going on in peoples lives and they possibly might just send you one later.
Btw congrats 🙂
Post # 12
We had guests like that (no card, or card and no gift). We thanked everyone at the very least for “sharing this special day with us”. We didn’t mean it to be like a nudge nudge *ahem* where’s our gift. But one of our friends got the thank you card and was confused why we didn’t thank them for their gift. So she asked her DH and he thought she had given us the gift. LOL So they were rather embarassed and gave us a gift and apologized, which then made me and DH feel horribly awkward. We didn’t send it with the intention of pulling gifts out of people. We just wanted to thank everyone for coming. For the record, we didn’t register so we weren’t expecting gifts either.
Post # 13
Great! Thanks so much everyone 🙂
Post # 14
No gift, no card…no problem. Would you have liked a card? Yes. But atleast they attended the wedding. And you should send a simple thank you note for that.
Post # 15
@soon2bnixon: Thank you! And congrats on your wedding this saturday!! 😀
Post # 16
If I recall correctly, the only guests who didn’t bring a gift were the younger single guys, so I wasn’t terribly offended by their cluelessness. 🙂 I didn’t send thank you’s if there was no gift, which I believe is generally considered acceptable. We thanked all our guests, in person, for coming to the wedding.
It’s also possible that some guests are having a gift sent to you.