Post # 1
I have a lot of guests who haven’t responded despite callling and texting after the RSVP deadline. I’ve explained to them that numbers are needed for seating and catering. I even extended the date by 10 days for some who are graduate students to get their schedules together.
We’re on a tight budget and have even gone over our original number and so I honestly wouldn’t mind those people declining.However, I really suspect that a few people are going call a week to time, and say they’ll be coming. Have any of you dealt with this before? I mean how do you tell people politely, “YOU CAN”T COME TO MY WEDDING BECAUSE I’M NOT SPENDING ANYMORE MONEY ON CATERING AND YOU MISSED THE RESPONSE DATE”?
Post # 3
Call/text one last time and say “you have until tomorrow to let us know because we need to turn in our head count.” Although to be honest, if you have already contacted them and they still haven’t replied, I wouldn’t even do that.
If they tell you they can come a week from now you simply say “I’m sorry but we already turned in our numbers to our venue.” There is nothing rude about saying that.
Post # 4
We’re doing it!!!
FI’s mom is trying to add more people NOW “Oh I forgot so-and-so’s son” (who we never met)
Well, guess what? SCREW THAT – NO. He can’t come!!!
We are having some other problems with her so the fact that she’s trying to pull that on us isn’t helping a damn thing.
What we tell people is our numbers are in, the tables are set and there can be no more changes [sorrynotsorry]. We will miss you at the wedding!
It’s a lie.
Our numbers don’t need to be in until the day before.
Post # 5
We didn’t track down people who failed to respond. We had a guest call the week of the wedding saying he forgot to reply, and I said that he is absolutely more than welcome to join us, but since I had already turned in our final numbers I couldn’t guarantee a meal. We had appetizers at cocktail hour, and I offered to send over any meals from no-shows if there were any available.
I think we had one couple show up without having rsvp’d at all or calling, and they basically sat at an overflow table in the back since they weren’t on our seating chart. They also enjoyed our cocktail hour and may have received a no-show’s meal as well.
Post # 6
@HBO: We gave people a date, and the day after we called, asked them if they were coming, and that was that. We didn’t reach out to them any other way or a second time. It was an automatic decline then. Lucky we had easy guests and most responded when they should have.