Guests who don't RSVP

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
Member
6503 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Call/text one last time and say “you have until tomorrow to let us know because we need to turn in our head count.” Although to be honest, if you have already contacted them and they still haven’t replied, I wouldn’t even do that.

If they tell you they can come a week from now you simply say “I’m sorry but we already turned in our numbers to our venue.” There is nothing rude about saying that.

Post # 4
Member
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We’re doing it!!!

FI’s mom is trying to add more people NOW “Oh I forgot so-and-so’s son” (who we never met)
Well, guess what? SCREW THAT – NO. He can’t come!!!
We are having some other problems with her so the fact that she’s trying to pull that on us isn’t helping a damn thing.

What we tell people is our numbers are in, the tables are set and there can be no more changes [sorrynotsorry]. We will miss you at the wedding!
It’s a lie.
Our numbers don’t need to be in until the day before.
BUT STILL.

Post # 5
Member
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We didn’t track down people who failed to respond.  We had a guest call the week of the wedding saying he forgot to reply, and I said that he is absolutely more than welcome to join us, but since I had already turned in our final numbers I couldn’t guarantee a meal.  We had appetizers at cocktail hour, and I offered to send over any meals from no-shows if there were any available.  

I think we had one couple show up without having rsvp’d at all or calling, and they basically sat at an overflow table in the back since they weren’t on our seating chart.  They also enjoyed our cocktail hour and may have received a no-show’s meal as well.

Post # 6
Member
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@HBO:  We gave people a date, and the day after we called, asked them if they were coming, and that was that. We didn’t reach out to them any other way or a second time. It was an automatic decline then. Lucky we had easy guests and most responded when they should have.

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