- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
My FI went out for the night with some of his work friends (Navy so works away). Now I know its common for people to tell the groom ‘get out while you can’ ‘dont do it’ etc, but this feels different.
He was out with 2 of of his old friends and one’s girlfriend, and a bunch of people from work. The older guy (who is like 40+ I believe, got divorced a few years ago, even ran away to Thailand for 3 yrs and lived on a beach, then returned to UK and joined the forces. He’s always involved with fetish type activities, sleeping with women while their husbands watch etc. he creeps me out (we are 22). This man is currently seeing a woman he met through these activities who married at 25 and is also divorced. His other friend (24) was cheated on by his 6yr Gf, then married a girl at 21 he’d only known for 6 months – ended in divorce within another 6 months.
So as you can see they didnt have good experiences. Anyway the older guy made a point of going on to my fiancé about how its a mistake, were too young, look at everyone else who got married that age (though FIs parents married at 20 and are happily married 23yrs later). His new gf apparently also chimed in about how we shouldnt do it.
Why do people bother? do they expect my fiancé to call me and say ‘sorry, we aren’t getting married, everyone thinks its a bad idea’!?
Anyway, the part I’m really upset about is the idea that this older guy and his Gf are invited, except we haven’t sent their invite yet as we didn’t have an address. I really don’t want anyone at this wedding who isnt supportive (Its bad enough with the comment I get from my divorced dad). Why would I pay for 2 people who have tried to convince my fiancé not to marry me, to come and eat the food and drink, have a party with their friends and judge us?! I haven’t met this woman yet but I already know I do NOT want to see her anywhere near my wedding.
my fiancé still wants this couple to come though. Because he wants the guy there As he’s known him so long.
Not sure what to do..
Edit: I met this guy at one of my fiancés friends weddings shortly after we got together. the groom had cheated on his wife a lot but they had worked through iT (my fiancé told me). I mentioned to this guy ‘oh they look so happy together!’ To which he responded ‘oh, well you don’t know what I know’, and proceeded to tell me (someone he just met) about the grooms cheating. It just makes me think he’s a horrible sleaze of a man. Who does that? Tells a random guest about the groom cheating on the bride at the wedding?!