- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2015
After 2 months of separation my former partner just told his sister he feels huge guilt. Thats despite us both knowing (and saying) our separation was for the best. He hasnt said/shown any ‘guilt’ whatsoever til now
We have sort of stayed friends, as in if he contacts me with a genuine concern or a question then i do respond. if its just a ‘hi how are you’ then i dont. I dont have any need/want to be friends because i just dont see the point.
His housing situation is causing him a lot of stress,he has to move again (3rd time since the split) he has ongoing childhood issues and is having therapy (tho he has only been once in 2 months) and admits to his sister to having lots of ‘down days’
I have taken a massive step back from him (for my own sake) and have done a lot of self therapy. i am happy and feel great and have done more or less from the split. I know he is the only one that can help himself but i also dont want him feeling guilty (he lied to me).
He is,what i call, emotionally stunted and really struggles working out his own feelings and thoughts. my friend thinks that his grass aint so green on the other side and that its regret and loss that he is feeling rather than guilt
i know i shouldnt really care what he is feeling but on the other hand i also dont wish him feeling guilt if it actually is that