Post # 1
(Two questions, kind of long)
Is this something I should feel guilty about? About a month ago, I went to a sample sale and with little options, found nothing, but I really enjoyed my consultant’s personality. This weekend, I met with her again. Originally, I really wanted to try on Maggie Sottero’s Bernadette, but knew it was just too out of budget. Something more in reason was Karena Royale. So she pulled that for me, and since there was an Allure trunk show, pulled some Bernadette/Royale inspired dresses for me.
I tried Karena on first and there was nothing I didn’t like about it, and after trying on 5 others, I ended up deciding on Karena. She was ready to take my measurements but I couldn’t pull the trigger. Originally, I wanted to find a dress and then look online for a used one. But now that I’ve taken two of my consultant’s appointments, I feel guilty about not buying from her, I think more so because she was fun to work with.
FI likened it to car shopping, that just because you look doesn’t mean you’ll buy from them. But I still can’t shake the guilty feeling-is that normal?
My second concern is that I planned on going dress shopping next month when I visit my grandmother so she can have the experience with me (I didn’t really think I would have found one yesterday). Now that I’ve found the dress, is it wrong to go try on dresses at another shop fully aware that I don’t intend to purchase there?
Post # 3
From reading your post, it doesn’t sound like you are in love with any dress you’ve tried on. It’s perfectly normal (and GOOD!) to keep looking at other options and stores. I understand your guilt about your consultant, but that is her job and she realizes many brides will purchase from her and many brides will not. I’d be more concerned about buying a dress you don’t like, and the months leading up to the wedding feeling regretful that you don’t have the dress you want. You still have almost a year until your wedding, I’d definitely shop around during the next few months and find something you love and are so excited about. 🙂 Like, jump up and down, want to cry, can’t stop smiling excited about!!
Post # 4
I can understand why’d you say that based on the lackluster description that I wrote, but the focus of my question wasn’t on the dress, I assure you it is THE dress, I’m just not the kind of person that says OMG, hop up and down, cry, love. So yes I do love the dress, it is THE dress, and I will not be looking for any other dresses.
Post # 5
If you love the dress and you had a great experience with the consultant, you should go back to that shop with your money ready and say “Let’s get the dress.” That’s about all there is to it, I wouldn’t see the point in taking your grandmother shopping at a different place with no intention to buy from them.
Post # 6
Whoops, sorry OP…I get it now. Just from the line:
I tried Karena on first and there was nothing I didn’t like about it, and after trying on 5 others, I ended up deciding on Karena.
I was reading it as you didn’t dislike the dress, so you settled on it. If you know it’s the dress you love, I second the motion to go back and pull the trigger!! 🙂 However, if there’s no conern that it will be unavailable in a few months, you could still do the dress shopping with your gma (I’m sure she’ll love that!) and purchase it after that trip in case you do find another contender.
Post # 7
I see no harm in trying on other dresses with your grandmother, even if it only cements in your mind that this is the dress for you. I do think you’re better off buying from the shop you went to rather than trying ebay because you could get a knock off/ stained dress —unless of course the new dress is out of your budget somehow but I didn’t really get that indication
Post # 8
I don’t think you need to feel guilty AT ALL for taking up 2 appointments and still not buying a dress! It’s a lot of money to be spending on ONE outfit, so why shouldn’t you take up even more time and make absolutely sure you are 100% happy with your dress? Also, I don’t see anything wrong with trying on dresses with your grandmother. Like Sylvia.riggle said, it might just help cement your decision – or it might open your eyes to other dresses/styles!
Post # 9
I had a very similar experience when I found my dress. It was the first weekend I had tried on dresses and we were actually shopping for my bridesmaid dresses when my mom happened upon my dress. I decided to try it on and the reactions from my mom and all my girls almost made me buy it then. However, I already made plans to go dress shopping the following weekend with my mom and FMIL. I decided to go to another salon in town, as well as the salon with MY dress. That’s when I officially decided it was my dress.
For me, I needed some time to think about it. It’s a big purchase and decision that shouldn’t be taken lightly. BTW…the Karena was my second choice! GOOD LUCK!!! Enjoy the experience with your grandmother. I would definitely try on the Karena with her…her reaction might help seal the deal without needing to try any more dresses! 😉
Post # 10
Thanks ladies! I think that since I’ll be going with my grandmother in the middle of a weekday, we won’t be taking up too much of someone’s time, and since I haven’t purchased it yet I’m not committed to anything.
@MadTownGirl: I get why you would say that, sometimes I just don’t write things out well. What I meant by that statement was that I tried on Karena first, and nothing ever compared to Karena, I kept coming back to it, whereas with the others I didn’t like this length, that lace, those shoulders etc.