Post # 1
Ok pity party…I’m doing it.
So I used to work with Nick about 5 years ago. He was a few years younger than me. Really computer saavy, smoked like a chimney. I was involved with someone else but I always knew he liked me.
Fast forward a couple of years later, we are living in different cities. He invites me up to stay with him for a weekend. We have a great time but I can tell he isn’t serious about me. I leave and feel a bit deflated. We continue a text/IM friendship anyways. Fast forward another year. He got engaged to a beautiful woman a few months ago and they just posted their wedding pics on FB. They went to the justice of the peace. When I knew him he was kind of chubby and smoked all the time. He looks different, slimmer…calmer maybe.
I was happy for him and then I started feeling sorry for myself. Why not me? I’m older I should be the one who is married! And why didn’t he pick me anyways? I’m still wiping away tears. Why am I 33 years old and still single? I have a career, a dog, I’m kind, I can share my toys……WTF?!
Siggggghhhhhhhhhhhh….gotta get out there and start dating again soon. *sob*
Post # 3
I can only give a virtual hug. Things will get better. 🙂
Post # 4
There is someone out there for you, too! You’re right in that you should start dating again…then you’ll have more opportunities to meet him.
Post # 5
Obviously your prince charming is still waiting for you too. it is common to hear but obviously he wasn’t the one for you. Hang in there and focus on what you are blessed to have. Happy guys are attracted to happy gals. Keep your chin up!
Post # 6
Many virtual hugs to you honey!!!!
Your guy is out there….and in the meantime you have a GREAT life.
And a dog. I’m jealous….
So much going for you, I just have to say please have faith. Have faith that you are a wonderful person and some guy will be CRAZY about you.
Post # 7
Sometimes it isn’t best to stay in contact with people you used to date. When you do find out that they are with someone new or are married, you will probably be surprised at how upset and disappointed you are. You may think you are totally over it until it suddenly pops back into your life.
Don’t feel bad for yourself. Be happy and get out there and date!!
And remember, you don’t want a guy who smokes like a chimney anyways.
Post # 8
You know what is so great?! This website and all the kudos from the other gals.
We are still friends since we didn’t date but a couple of times and we were friends before. I hope his new lady got him to cut back on the smoking..she has a 7 year old so I hope for her sake also. Nice guy, just nicer for someone else.
I’ll be alright, just lost my sh*t there for a minute 🙂 Envy is a terrible thing.
Post # 9
okay, this is completely petty, but it’s what I did when a similar thing happened to me:
You know that guy is NOT perfect–in fact I bet you can think of a few of his flaws. Go ahead and think of them. Now think of a cuter guy who doesn’t have any of those flaws at all.
He’s out there, and he’s single–a quality fish just like you.
Post # 10
(((HUGS))) to you! Lots and lots! That guy who’s right for you is definitely out there,so keep the faith! (as JBJ says, hahaha) 😉
Post # 11
33 is not bad at all! i met DH at 32, i thought i’d never get married because i couldn’t seem to meet anyone! so you never know when you’ll meet the right guy!
Post # 12
Been there too, my ex got married within a year of us breaking up. I can understand why you’re feeling like this, but he obviously wasn’t the one for you. It seems you’ve got everything else sorted so when you do find that special someone you’ll have all the pieces to your jigsaw. ((x))
Post # 13
Please don’t establish a timeline for yourself! i’m 44 and just got engaged. I had several long term things that just didn’t pan out, including living with someone for 6 years. Now I have the most wonderful guy and am incredibly lucky. It took me a long time, but it did happen. If you are open to it, it will come!
Just don’t stick to the wrong guy, hoping it will happen. This guy wasn’t for you, but someone out there is!
Post # 14
Hang in there! I know that things will get better!!
Post # 15
Ughh I don’t know why these things affects us, but they do. But I’m sure you’ll get over it soon. I’m rooting for you and that perfect guy designed just for you, you know he’s out there.