Guys, I just don't know what to do…

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@marinesfiance:  How likely is it to rain? If it is not something that you would expect to happen (maybe plan for a dry season wedding) then go without a tent, maybe have a potluck, and use a ipod for music. I have a HUGE family and had to cut down a lot of people. Start in tiers:

1) you and your FI

2) Parents/ siblings

3) Grandparents 

4) Aunts& Uncles

5) Cousins 

6) Second cousins and so on….

*add friends/ co-workers were you deem them most important 

Go through those teirs and decide what is most important to you. You can have a SUPER nice wedding dinner or luncheon with just your parents, siblings, and grandparents or you can have a really CHEAP wedding dinner or luncheon with a big guest list. 

EDIT: In this case it will really be a decision of what is most imprtant to you. Quality or Quantity. Are you willing to push back your date and save for a longer period of time? I had to save over a year in order to get the wedding I wanted. I would also check alternatives. I used a vacation rental site to find my venue and then hunted down rental companies. 

I used VRBO in order to find a place to get married and it ended up being cheaper than anything else to hire each vendor individually. Although it is a LOT more planning than if you had a venue do it for you. 

Good luck


Post # 4
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Cut the +1’s I know it’s not etiquette, but our rule was if they are not engaged, SO’s are not invited. Two of my cousins did it that way and had no problems. 

Post # 6
6194 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

Is it possible for you to pick up another job part time since it’s two years away? It shouldn’t be that hard to save up another 2k in two years.

Post # 7
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Cut back and then cut back some more.  Check out local restaurants (ones that do not specialize in weddings) with private rooms to see what they offer.  For my first wedding I was able to secure the private room at a local restaurant overlooking a lake by guaranteeing and paying for 60 guests at $16 per person including a plated dinner for each guest.

If you really can’t consider cutting the list then you might need to go with a simpler courthouse or destination wedding where keeping the guest list tiny won’t cause anyone to bat an eye.  Otherwise, you can put off your date by another year or two and save more money.

Post # 8
3618 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@marinesfiance:  In that case I would cut down the guest list to 100 and purchase a tent. Our guest list went for 300 hundred people to 100 and I don’t regret that at all. In the end 94 people RSVP’d and we had a wedding that was large enough to be a pumped party and a wedding that was small enough to be pretty meaningful and intimate. Seems like you are still very ealy on in planning and like every bride to be you are still getting a grip on where to start. I would start by venue. If it is a backyard then I would buget for what you would need and THEN start a guest list. It is always best to estimate the number of guests based on what the venue can hold, or on who can fit under the tent. 

Post # 9
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Have you looked in local parks or historical buildings?

We were looking for something on the cheaper side, so we could put more money into food, drinks & entertainment.

We found that there were alot of parks with buildings for rent, and historical sites tend me go by donations, or small flat fees.

Post # 10
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@mmr66:  This – we’re doing the same thing!

Post # 13
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@marinesfiance:  I suggest getting out of the big cities.  I live in Des Moines, but I’m getting married in a little town.  A decent venue in Des Moines is going to run $2000 + (One I fell in love with was 10K *gulp*).  A venue in my small town is at most $1000, and that was for the upgraded option. 

You are in Cedar Rapids?  I hear the Ammanas have wonderful venues!  Maybe you could check out some of them.  I know its kind of a pain to travel a bit, but doing so may save your budget.

Post # 16
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

If you can’t afford to invite the whole extended family then do not invite them.  You are not obligated to go above and beyond your budget so that everyone gets invited.  Set a number that you are comfortable spending, and create your guest list based on that.  If you have to cut some family out that you are not that close to don’t worry about it, you are not obligated to invite every family member just because you are related to them if it doesn’t fit in the budget.

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