Guys. I think I am going weddingh dress bananas. Help.

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
3778 posts
Honey bee

How frustrating. I have never been wedding dress shopping so not really any help to you. If they all look the same and you have found some that look nice on you, maybe just pick one of those. Although, who knows, maybe if you tried more on you would eventually find one and have that “This is it” moment – comming to bump so other bees can help.

Post # 3
1116 posts
Bumble bee

I’ve not been dress shopping yet either (going first weekend in July) and I’m worried about the same thing as they pretty much all look the same online etc (big, white, pretty…). Therefore I am probably not going to be at all helpful…

Did you try on lots of different styles/lengths/fabrics? I’ve heard so many brides who fell in love with something different to what they expected so it might be that?

You’ve also only been to two shops so maybe give it another go somewhere else, worst case you’d just be in same place you are now.

Post # 4
1646 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

freshflowers:  I disliked wedding dress shopping. It was too difficult to decide what I wanted.


SO… I actually decided on different features I’d like in a dress and ordered it online through Tradesy. I then decided I wanted a different style, sold  that one and bought another one on Tradesy. It worked for me, but you have to get a deal if there’s any chance of reselling it. I’m very happy with what I ended up in!

Post # 5
7 posts

I hear you! I felt the same way when I was looking for my dress. I felt gorgeous in many of the options, but none of them really moved me. In the end, I asked my dad to come and give me his opinion on two dresses, as I knew he wouldn’t be distracted by pretty lace or sparkles, and would only see how well it suited me. I came away with a dress that isn’t as pretty on its own as others were, but that flatters me the best. And as you suspect you will, I love the one I have.

Post # 6
361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

freshflowers:  Let me break down what I did: I’m a 100-dresses bride.  That’s right — I tried on close to 100 dresses and went shopping in 3 different states.  The result?  I tried on basicall one of EVERY style, shape, color and realized that wedding dresses are meant to look good on brides and they don’t make you beautiful — they just accentuate everything.  Knowing that, I decided I wanted to accentuate my best features: collarbone, butt, thin waist, and lessen attention on other areas, such as upper arms.  I also decided I wanted something a little bit different, so that eliminated keyhole backs and strapless.  And I just kept narrowing down from there.  In other words, you will look gorgeous in so many dresses, and if you’ve already tried on different styles, it’s time to get specific.  I also found that it helped not to spend too much time in dresses.  At first I wanted to try everything on in front of a million mirrors and spin around and get opinions, but that sort of numbed me to it.  Then I started putting on dresses and going with my very first instinct.  When I finally found my dress, I knew it was “the one” because as I turned to say “ok, next!” I stopped myself and took another look.  I did not get all gushy and cry, but I just wanted to get that dress fitted and get married same day.  Good luck!

Post # 7
5160 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

freshflowers:  I’ve TOTALLY been there and I get it.  I kept feeling like – yup, this dress is beautiful.  Most wedding dresses are very beautiful.  

First thing, you’ve only been to 2 stores!  Go to a few more and see if something really strikes you.

Second thing, if you are finding tons of dresses that will work, be sure to choose one that fits your criteria (i’m sure you had some criteria before you went out shopping).  Maybe it’s budget, maybe you want straps or a corset, maybe you want something that doesn’t need tons of alterations or something you can buy off the rack.  Whatever.  It’ll help you narrow things down.


Post # 8
385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Most brides don’t actually get the “OMG I’m in love” moment with the dress. Narrow it down based on:

1) Price range

2) Something you’re unlikely to be ashamed of in 30 years

3) Best shape for your body

4) FI’s preferences

5) type of event you’re throwing and venue

6) something that fits your personality. (If you’re a quiet, unassuming person, over the top bling and ruffles are probably not “your dress.” If you’re an extrovert, then something simple and unembellished probably isn’t “you.”)

7) If you have an emotional reaction to anything on this list (like “wait, I’m shy but I still want my bliiiing!”) then go with your gut feeling.

Post # 9
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Bartram's Garden

As an over-analytical bride, I was shocked to find that the more I seached and browsed and clicked through pictures online to get an idea of what I was looking for, the more confused I got.  Personally, I found the most clarity once I put away the pictures, and talked to a skilled consultant about big picture ideas, like comfortability, style, themes, and my personal style.  It was only then that I had my “ah-ha” moment, and fell completely in love with my dress–something I thought FOR SURE wouldn’t happen to me!  Sometimes, your gut really is tying to tell you what to do, you just need to quiet the rest of the noise to hear it 🙂

I’d say don’t settle until you’ve at least felt some kind of connection to a specific style or color or shape or whatever!  Even if you don’t have that moment, you will at least be able to make an educated decision that you won’t regret!


Post # 10
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I had the same experience. Nothing felt “exciting”, and while the gowns are all beautiful, and there were several I found very flattering, nothing felt like me or special enough for me to want to get married in it. So, I am customizing a dress through Casablanca so I can have something that feels a little more personal. Not the right choice for everybody, but it is the right choice for me; I get to be excited about the process and the suspense, and have something that feels very unique and personal. Not everyone has a “Say Yes to the Dress” moment, but I do believe that you shouldn’t just pick one to be done with the process; find something to be excited about, even if it’s the totally awesome veil that works with a particular dress, or (like me) the process of customizing it to fit your vision. 

Post # 11
1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

At a certain point, you have to just say yes. its very possible to love several dresses- u just have to pick one and stick to it!

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