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    nicole61183    9.18.10   Ann Arbor, MI

    My best friend is a guy and he is going to be in my bridal party, standing on my side with the girls.  So many people think its strange, but I think it makes perfect sense.  He's my bestie, why not have him on my side??

    what do you guys think?

     
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    MissHelen    November 20, 2010   California

    Makes complete sense to me. Granted, I'm biased since one of my best friends is a guy and he'll be standing on my side too!

    The fact is that this person is one of the best friends I've ever had and I want him there with me. If the guests or whoever doesn't like it, tough patooties!

     
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    Dancy905    February 5, 2010  

    I love the idea  My best friend from college is a guy. I was in his wedding last July & he'll be in mine. At first there was talk of me wearing a tux, then a black dress standing with the guys. I ended up wearing a BM dress & standing with the girls but it didn't matter to me where I stood, it mattered that they both wanted me part of the day.

    One of FI's oldest friends is a girl. They've been friends since kindergarten - so we had a trade off: I'd have his kindergarten buddy if he had my college buddy.

    I know some people have a problem with it. My mom for one didn't understand the idea of me standing with the guys - that it would attract attention away from the bride. But I think as long as the bride & groom don't care - why should anyone else?

     
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    SanDiegoAli    September 18, 2010   San Diego

    I'm totally a "live and let live" type of person, so this doesn't really phase me at all. If it works for you - then great! I can see that some people probably won't "get" it, but whatever, it's YOUR wedding.

    BTW - We're date twins!

     
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    Noelle-a-Belle    October 16 2009   Southern CA

    My brother was a bridesman.  I think it was cute; here's a pic (non-pro) and I think he looked so cute as part of my bridal party!

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    Tulip61110    June 11, 2010   Philadelphia

    One of my close guy friends is going to be in our wedding party, but I decided just to have him stand with the other groomsmen.  The main reason was because FI's sister is in the wedding (who I'm not that close with), and she will be standing with the girls, so it didn't really make sense to have my guy friend stand with the girls if his sister wasn't going to stand with the guys.  If she wasn't in the wedding though, I would totally have my guy friend stand on my side!

     
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    sewing    July 2010   SF Bay Area / Oahu

    My brother will be standing on my side. So far no one's given me any complaints about it, though he is my baby brother afterall. lol.

     
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    mimosa    May 29, 2010   NC

    why not?  It's supposed to be your close friends and family members that stand beside you during your ceremony.  I love the idea, some people like to remain in their little box about certain things, I say Blah! to them :0)

    @ Noelle, love that pic! 

     
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    My best friend since 6th grade is a guy, and he will definitely be standing on my side along with my brother.  My bf and I live in FL, and my brother lives in MA, so they've only met a couple of times.  I wouldn't want/expect my bf to ask him to be a GM.  And my bf's sister lives in VA, so I've only met her a few times. If he wants her in the wedding then she'll have to stand on his side because it wouldn't make sense for me to ask her to be a BM since I don't really know her, and they were best friends growing up.

    I recently went to a wedding with a guy on the bride's side and a woman on the groom's side.  The guy wore a the same black suit as the GMs, but his tie matched the BM dresses (the GMs had black ties).  The woman wore the same style dress as the BMs, but in black.  It looked very nice and it was very clear who was standing up for who.

     
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    ginandtonic    July 31, 2010   Bristol, RI

    Two of my best friends are guys and it made no sense to me that I shouldn't have them in the wedding party when they were so supportive, loving and special--why should I pretend that they aren't and not ask them to stand up for me because they're not girls? It felt like I was demoting them or something. So they're going to be with some bridesmaids too and wear color-coordinating ties (though they offered to wear poufy bridesmaid's dresses, LOL). I think it's becoming more commonplace--at my cousin's wedding, both my cousin and her husband had both men and women on their sides.

     
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    spaniel    March 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Sure, why not?

    My two brothers will be standing on my side. I thought it was more appropriate than having them on Mr. S's side.

     
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    redherring    September 11, 2010   Pittsburgh, PA

    I have one of my male friends on my side, and my fiance has a female friend on his side. Why not? :)

     
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    nicole61183    9.18.10   Ann Arbor, MI

    Im glad everyone thinks its ok.  It's getting on my nerves when people ask if my friend is going to wear a dress!  I mean, really?!  This is my wedding, not a circus!  It's kind of annoying.

     

    Thanks for all the feedback!

     

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