Post # 1
So its like pulling teeth getting the list that my fiance came up with. So I just told him to email it to me, from the office, and he did.
On it, it says each of his friends name + 1. I mean the problem isn’t + 1 … it’s that he didn’t indicate if they’re married or not. Do I put Mr. and Mrs. _____ or Mr. ___ and guest.
This is so annoying. Also, the names don’t even appear to be spelled all correctly. I mean. What do I have to DOOOOOOOOOO.
Post # 3
This is why WE do all this sort of stuff, LoL.
Post # 4
LOL …. I feel your pain… It took my FI a week before I mailed out the invites to give me a list. Maybe try to email him back and ask him to give you more info (married, correct spelling etc.).
Then it should be much easier to address the invites… good luck!
Post # 5
Add a little note to those invites stating: *The bride had no hand in the adderss/name spelling of these invites. Any and all errors are the responsibility of the groom. Haha, just kidding. So wrong.
Anyway, is there anyway he can email or contact those friends to get the right spelling?
Post # 6
LOL! Frustrating but funny… I feel you. I got a list where Running Bear Road was spelled Running Bare Road (yipes!). It was like a misspelled word search. I ended up messing up a few envelopes because of misspellings on the list that I received. I sat with the internet open and fiance in the room while I corrected every single name and address, and neither of us is sure whether we spelled Jonathan right on one of the envelopes (spelled differently than here)… At that point, we did our best and sent the damned thing.
Hopefully, you’ll look back on this and laugh!
Post # 7
OMG I feel your pain too… For the people my dear, darling FI wants to invite, he has no idea how to spell their names, who they’re married too, or how many kids any of them have…
I ended up asking his mom and a woman he works with (who I didn’t know until the day I went in and asked for her help).
Post # 8
I think I will just give the list to his sister, and tell her please correct the spelling and tell me if they’re married. Haha.
Post # 9
I knoooww! I’m like is is Sean or Shawn? LOL.
Post # 10
haha…FI didn’t understand why we couldn’t just address to his friend and let them figure out if they were married/brought a guest etc.
Then he got all mad that I spelled out "Doctor" for the doctors (who are mostly his parents’ friends, BTW, b/c my parents are doing their own list).
The best thing we ever did was to create an address entry form on our website that we sent out with our STD’s. I shudder to imagine what it would have been like to track everyone down otherwise 🙂
Post # 11
Fizics- We did that too. I was so happy that for some percentage we had a reliable name and address. Fiance may not be able to spell, but he can write a great coding script!
Post # 12
Totally relate. I even volunteered to sit *with* my guy and write it all down. He kept getting frustrated and going, "I don’t know who else…" even with me quietly prompting: "What about friends from church? Or so and so from class?"
Post # 13
I gotta second (or more!) ejs4y8! Boys just don’t understand! LOL
Post # 14
His mom gave me a list with every name spelled correctly and if they are Dr or not and if they’re married. WITH the addresses. She’s such a life saver. Fiance however, with a list of all of his friends – just put each name plus 1 … I emailed back … could you please let me know if they’re married and if they are not … and if they’re spelled all correctly.
Post # 15
I went through the same exact thing.
This is our story. He didn’t give me a list. We ordered Save-the-Dates. I sent out to the addresses I had. He kept saying, tomorrow I will get the addresses for my friends we need to send the STD’s to… then tomorrow became a week, a month, another month… TWO WEEK BEFORE I SEND OUT THE INVITES he finally sends his friends save the dates…. And then he continues to collect addresses for me to send invites.
My MOH and I Gocco the wedding invites. I have, what I think is, the final list- but we make extra invites. I arrive home to find him panicking that I only made a certain number of invites- when he decided that he wanted to send some MORE invites OUT OF COURTESY to previous employers and previous co-workers. I was so frustrated because I had to cut guests from my list to make sure we didn’t OVER INVITE people. we only budgeted for a certain amount of guests, and here he is adding guests that we hadn’t previously considered inviting.
On top of that- after we send out the invites, he complains we are going to go over budget for having more guests.
All I have to say is— save your addresses! The men won’t help us! I sent out an email to some of his friends I found email addresses of saying he ‘hasn’t been doing his groom duty, would they so kindly send me their addresses.’ A friend of his yesterday emailed me asking if her husband was permitted to go to the wedding. my FH says- see I told you people would be confused with the online RSVP thing. And my reply was- well if you had told me her husbands NAME and that she was even MARRIED I would have put Mr and Mrs So-and-So on the mailing envelope…
I think obtaining addresses and mailing the STD’s and invites out was by far the most frustrating experience ever in this planning process.
Post # 16
Getting info from my guy was like pulling teeth at first. "Dont worry about it. I’ve got addresses and significant others names. I’ll get to it" was the response i kept getting. So I started with my info and then handed him blank ones and said "you know it – you do it otherwise im addressing them to ‘Joe and Whoever’ ". He sat down and gave me the list the next day. 🙂