Post # 1
Darling Husband joined the Men’s Curling League this year, so he curls every Wednesday night. It gives him an evening away from home/me and I get the house to myself to decompress. It’s become the same for the rest of the team (the ones that have wives) so I dubbed it the “Guys Night Out”. Darling Husband loves it, has fun and I like the alone time.
Darling Husband did mention at the beginning of the season that he’d like for me to come watch and meet the guys one night. I told him I’d love to, but I just haven’t tagged along yet. Fast forward to last night, Darling Husband, at the spur of the moment, asked if I wanted to come. I said I’d like to, but I know how much the other guys like the time away from their women, and I don’t want to be that wife that barges in on the Guy’s Night. All of DH’s other friends that know me well, know that I am NOT that kind of girl, I’ve always been a guy’s girl, my closest friends are guys and don’t mind if Darling Husband brings me along once in a while. But, I’ve never met these guys and one of them has said that he loves these Wednesday nights where they can get away from the wives and just be guys.
Long story short, I didn’t go. Darling Husband agreed that he wasn’t sure how they would react, but he DOES want me to come one night, so he would try and see what the vibe is with them. I forgot to ask him if he found anything out, but I’m going to see tonight.
So gals, does your guy have a Guys Night Out? Have you ever tagged along? Or, do you do EVERYTHING together?
Post # 3
Yes Darling Husband has one every week; yes I sometimes tag along if other wives are too as in it turns into a group thing. Also sometimes him and a few guys will call me to come over for drinks bc I chill out better with the guys and we like hanging out but that’s only once in awhile. Im always the last girl hanging out playing games or talking so they enjoy it.
Post # 4
I’m not quite sure how to answer in the poll, so I’ll answer here 😀
When we first started dating I spent a lot of time at his place, which was kind of the hub of his group of friends, so I became really close with them as well. He hasn’t meshed quite as well with my friends from college, they get along, but they haven’t completely clicked, so I frequently had girls night, but I was always invited out with him and his friends, because at that point they were also my friends. Once we moved in together we realized that we both needed those nights, so we still all hang out most of the time, but about once every two or three weeks the guys go out and watch the blackhawks, or go to a comic shop or something (even though those are also things we do together 😀 haha) just so we have some time with our friends just to hang out. It also helps him get away from the wedding talk for a night 😀 haha. He’s been crazy involved, but every once in a while wants a night off, which I completely understand.
So I guess I can be counted in all three? haha
Post # 5
He doesn’t have a set “guys night out” but he’ll want to hang out with friends and I don’t, so he’ll go and I’ll stay home. Happens couple times a week maybe? It just happens natrually I guess.
Post # 6
I voted “He Doesn’t Have a Guys Night Out,” but we don’t do absolutely everything together. He just doesn’t have a regular outing with his guy friends. When possible, we try to get together with our separate groups of friends on the same night.
That said, I’ve gone along on his “guys” nights a couple of times before, and it was never a big deal, but I made my husband *really* make sure that it would be okay with them first!
Post # 7
Meh, sometimes I go out with him & the guys, other times I stay home & enjoy a glass *bottle* of wine. He plays rugby, and I used to, so it’s more of a “rugby” night out than a “guys” night out.
Post # 8
Doesn’t it kind of defeat the purpose of guy’s night out to tag along? I defintely let Darling Husband have his nights with the guys (they typically do poker nights).
If Darling Husband really wants you to come sometime, maybe plan it as a group outing some week and have all the wives come.
Post # 9
@Gemstone: Sorry, I didn’t mean to assume or single out the set nights. More so, if your SO is going out with just the guys, would you ever tag along. Mine just so happens to have one, now. Darling Husband didn’t have a set night when we were dating, either, but he did have nights when he just went out with the guys.
Post # 10
Once in awhile (only if he invites me). He goes to a college bar to watch NFL games pretty regularly and I’ll tag along. I’ve always gotten along better with boys anyway.
Post # 11
If my husbadn is going out with just his guy friends then I wont tag along. The same way if I’m hainging out with just girls I wont want him to tag along
Post # 12
No, I don’t tag along on guys’ nights. My fiance rarely goes out with the guys, though, maybe once or twice a month. I feel like tagging along kind of upset the other wives/GFs who weren’t invited, and, besides, I think he needs time away from me occasionally. If he had guys’ nights more often, I might take a different stance and come say “hi” (if the other females were allowed to do the same).
Post # 13
My husband doesn’t really have guys nights, we have all the same friends and pretty much do everything together. We’re not especially in need of “alone time”. However, if he did want to start seeing his guy friends and have a guys-only kind of thing, I’d not tag along. Kind of defeats the purpose to me.
Post # 14
I can’t vote because while he doesn’t specifically do “guys’ night out”, we don’t do everything together. He goes to games and does other stuff without me, but it’s usually with a mixed group since most of his/our friends are female. And I go out without him quite a bit.
Post # 15
Even though my Fiance doesnt hvae “guys night out”, I voted that I would never tag along. If he someday does guys night with friends, I dont want to be that awkward partner that tags along, and I dont want his friends to not include him because they know I’ll show up, too! I think we are mutual on this because even though he has been invited out with my friends before, he declines for the same reason.
Post # 16
My husband plays hockey at least twice a week. It’s a very important part of his life and he loves spending time with other guys. He has always asked me to come and watch (like some other partners of the players do) but i never have. In 5 years I have never seen him play! I am just not the kind of girl who watches her boyfriend/husband play sports.
I love that he goes out with other guys and is active. I’m like ‘see-ya!’ and i crack open a bottle of wine and grab my book. Not to mention playing hockey twice a week keeps his butt nice and tight!