Guys not into oral?

posted 2 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

That sucks that he doesn’t care:(  have you tried stimulating yourself while he is inside if you to help yourself get off?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

mightneedadvice81:  I have had experiences like that as well, I am lucky enough that my FI does care. He makes it a priority that I go before he does. Of course that doesn’t always happen but you really do need to talk to your significant other about it. Talking about it is huge!! My FI and I had our insecurities and one day a few years back I just brought it up and then we had ‘the talk’ lol. It really does open up more possibilites for your relationship and it makes everything more comfortable and enjoyable. Don’t get your hopes up.

Post # 5
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Worker bee

I think you should just talk with them about your sexual desires. Let them know that you enjoy pleasing them and you would like to recieve the same in return.  Another trick would be focusing on getting your self off first before you even start doing anything to them! 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Just saw your last message, and I am the same way. You just haven’t found the spot where you are able to go without clit stimulation, it is very common. That was one of my frustrations as well but it is nice when he knows and you can get creative. But yes, like hollyberry4:  said, you should try it when he is in you.

Post # 7
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Worker bee

mightneedadvice81:  you’re not alone! my past so, he would always want me to go down on him but when it came to me, majority of the time he didn’t wanna do it. It’s not fair, then why the hell should I go down on him?! Fair is fair! and I would say the same exact thing, I shouldnt have to say shit, he should WANT to

Post # 8
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Worker bee

mightneedadvice81:  oh yea and I’m the same, I can’t finish without clit stimulation either /: weird huh

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

mightneedadvice81:  This is easy, no O for him until he give you an O. If he balks or refuses, leave. 

You teach people how to treat you. If you keep dating such selfish guys, then you need to teach them that your needs come (pun intended) first. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

My husband loves giving oral. i dont and he complains to me all the time that i should do it for him more often. i have really bad gag reflex and maybe thats why i dont like to do it. i have never really done it much with any of my partners and my husband was/is the only one to complain. Also i have never asked for it but i received it with all of those partners too. i would rather him just get “hands on” than oral perferably. to each their own though

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

 

mightneedadvice81:  Have you tried being on top? because a lot of people in your shoes including myself can get off that way.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

mightneedadvice81:  Honestly? No, this isn’t the experience that I have had. 🙁 My past relationships have always been pretty 50/50. My DH LOVES to give oral. it’s the only way I can orgasm as well.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

mightneedadvice81:  def need to improve communication. My SO loves oral and takes pride in doing it. So I’ve never had your experience in that arena. I do think its a little bit selfish for a man to expect head without giving head and I’ve never been one to participate in giving oral sex unless I’m receiving.. But maybe that’s just me. 

As far as reaching orgasm I encourage exploring your body yourself as well as trying new positions. A lot of women get off being on top but I am one of the few that don’t so you have to figure out what works for you mostly through trial and error. 

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