Post # 1
Have you ever had a guy propose because something extreme happened like death of someone close to him, or his life flashing before his eyes, and him realizing life is too short?
Or have you ever had a guy propose because you were breaking up with him and he wanted you back?
I’ve had both of these things happen to me. The first time one of my my exes proposed because I had broken up with him and I guess he realized what he’d lost and wanted me back. The second time was a different ex who was in a car accident that almost cost him his life. I stood by him through his 1 year recovery and he proposed from his hospital bed.
I so want my current bf and (soul mate) to propose on his own, with no triggering event other than him just loving me and wanting to move forward in the relationship. I’m so scared that it is going to take drama for him to propose….like me getting to the end of my rope and threatening to live apart (or something crazy like that).
I hope that this will not be the case, and I do have faith. But there is always a possibility.
On a positive note, we were having a discussion about the future recently and I was just inquiring about whether we were still on the same page as far as “moving the relationship forward”, and his response was: “DO YOU WANT ME TO TELL YOU WHEN I’M GOING TO DO IT?!” I had to laugh at this because I didn’t even say the word “engaged” and he knew what I was talking about! Lol
Then a couple weeks ago he told me to take off three extra days for my birthday weekend because he took them off too, and that he was planning something special (birthday is in Nov). Of course I am jumping to conclusions in my mind, and it’ll be sad when it’s not the proposal…but I love that he’s planning something anyway!
Sorry this post was all over the place!
Post # 3
My birthday is in November as well and have considered that Mr. Beary is going to propose, but I really don’t want to get my hopes up. I asked him if he needed any hints for birthday gifts for me and he said, “Nope. It’s not hard to know what a woman wants if you really pay attention to the things she says.” Well, I was being pushy and we were walking past the jewelery counter in WalMart while we were running errands and I told him, “I’d love a promise ring.” He said, “I figured.”
Yeahhhh, I was being pushy, but there’s nothing else I TRULY honestly want. Welp, I’m not sure if he is/was planning on engagement for my birthday or if he’s just planning on getting me a placeholder ring and proposing or perhaps he’s going to get me the promise ring after all, or since I said something maybe I won’t get a ring whatsoever! LOL! My point: just let your SO do his thing. Do not hint at a ring or anything like my loud-mouth did if he does not ask you for specifics for your birthday wishlist. Chances are if he’s not asking what your little heart’s desire, then he’s planning something! 😉 If he DOES ask, playfully mention, “My birthday wishlist only includes being with you for the rest of my life.” If he asks, he might be testing the waters to see if you’re ready/if you feel he’s going to propose. It might turn him away from proposing on the day of your birthday if you mention a shiny huge diamond instead of just being with your soulmate for the rest of your days to come.
Post # 4
@katiebeary: Yeah, you’re right. Not gonna lie…on a few occasions I have thought about hinting at a ring, but I not only do I think it would be presumptuous of me, I also figure that would make me all the more sad if/when it doesn’t happen. Plus it’s waaayyy early in his 8 month timeline (which started in July), so I refuse to apply pressure!
Thanks for sharing your story though. I could definitely see my bf having a similar smart remark! Ha
Post # 5
if he askis you what you want try to be kinda nodescriptive about what you want. a subtle push might not hurt because lets face it guys for the most part dont do subtle 🙂
Post # 6
I’m pretty sure I have mentioned a ring or so a few times (does the diamond ring emoticon on the iphone count? haha!). Please keep us updated… November isn’t that far away!
Post # 7
@Hbomb84: The diamond ring emoticon is not a bad idea! May have to slip that one it 🙂
Post # 8
@aprose: Tell me about it!
Post # 9
I haven’t been proposed to, but my bf wasn’t ready to talk serious commitment til he thought I was going to dump him. Some guys just need a kick in the butt, unfortunately. Yeah, it’s not ideal; better for it to come from a loving, drama-free place.
Even if your guy doesn’t propose on your birthday, it sounds like he’s serious about taking the next step. I wish you luck!
Post # 10
@abirdword: That’s exactly what I’m talking about. I hate that guys need to feel like they’re gonna lose you in order to take that next step. I peg my current bf for that type. Of course I could be wrong…I can also see him having too much pride to get down on one knee if we are broken up or in a fight. I think he’d want to do it when we are in a good place.
Which is why I’ll be soooo mad if he waits forever to the point where I have to get upset and start setting deadlines and ultimatim-ish timeframes! Ugh!!! The thought!
Post # 11
I went on a 2 week trip to England and Scotland with my sister over the summer. Before I went, my SO was playing it cool about getting engaged “Maybe sometime in 2012” and clearly not wanting to show his cards. Then I went away for 2 weeks without phone or skype or anything and a 5 hour time change. I sent lots of emails, pictures, and even voice recordings from my iphone via Wifi/email.
The second to last day of my trip, i was able to get him on aim at the same time by telling my facebook friends to call him and get him online. He was miserable. He said he was going to propose in May 2012 at a big event at my school… but that he didn’t want to wait anymore, he didn’t want to be apart this long ever again.
So.. my trip prompted him to realize how much he wanted me in his life. He was going to propose anyway, but the trip moved him to buy the ring last week. He’s been looking for the perfect stone since August and waiting that little extra time let him to a fantastic deal.
Post # 12
That’s never happened to me, but I’m afraid that’s what it will take. Right now he’s happy and comfortable. Sometimes I think he’ll never do it unless he becomes very uncomfortable and is forced to face his feelings of needing me.