Post # 1
You guys are always so good with workout/gym input…I have a gym etiquette question for you! At your encouragement, I joined a gym after doing solo workouts for YEARS. I may not have been at this particular gym for long, but I do know the basics of form, safety, etc. There’s another girl who is often in the weightroom with me who clearly has NO idea what she’s doing (I’m not judging…I didn’t have any idea when I started strength training either), and she’s really going to hurt herself. I dont’ mean that she’s going to tweak something…I mean she is going to hurt a joint or a muscle really badly.
So here’s my dilemma…do I say something? If so, what? How? I would feel so bad if I didn’t say something and she got hurt! I’m trying to remember how I took suggestions when I started working out, and I don’t think I took them well. But then, they always came from skeevy guys who seemed more interested in hitting on women than working out. Maybe I would have taken them better coming from other women? The area of the gym that we use is pretty secluded, so I could definitely say something without anyone overhearing. What do you think?
Post # 3
Personally, I would not want someone to tell me that I’m doing something “wrong”. I like to be left alone when I work out, and I think it would make me really uncomfortable if I knew someone was watching me as I fumbled with the weights/machines! but that’s just me…if you notice her watching you as you work out or watching other people to see how they’re doing stuff, then maybe that means she’d be more open to it.
Post # 4
Thinking about it from a legal point of view, if you say anything to her and she does get hurt, could this girl try to blame you for telling her to do something different? At my gym, there are always trainers walking around, maybe you could discreetly tell one of them to help the girl.
Post # 5
This, unfortunately, is not your place. I know its good intentioned, but just not something someone does at the gym.
However, if you know a great lifting book you could say “I notice you in the gym lifting, I recently read “New Rules of Lifting for women” and loved it. You might enjoy it as well”
P.S. that is a good book too!
Post # 6
You could always do the same workout she is doing, but do it properly. And hopefully she sees!
Post # 7
@archielamb:Strike up a casual convo if possible, and mention how much you’ve loved your trainers, or whatever. When she does it one way, you can say something more along the lines of, “I’ve never done mine that way, Where did you train?”
Sometimes she has a reason for doing it. And if not, you can notify a trainer to help her.
I almost interfered with someone who was going to injure herself, but with that talk realized she was really
1. stuck in her ways
2. “knew” what she was doing
so I left her alone. I have no idea if she got hurt, but if she did it’s not my fault.
Another few times I did this and ended up with new gym buddies–motivation for me, and some training tips for them. Win-win! 🙂
Post # 8
I’d be very upset if someone corrected my “form”. If she is doing something dangerous the gym personal can say something to her. I stopped going to gyms because I felt like I was always being watched/judged despite everyone telling me I was crazy. I would hate to think how that would make this women feel.
Post # 9
@keepsmiling19: I agree, tell a trainer and have them tell her. I’ve been approached by trainers before cause i suck at exercising.
Post # 10
ETA: Ok, so my approach is maybe illegal… um, just tell a trainer in that case.
Post # 11
Ok, then. On behalf of that girl, I will thank you all for shutting me up in advance 🙂