Post # 1
I had my annual exam at the gyn yesterday. This is also my last appointment before we TTC in October. So naturally I had a list of questions for my gyn.
She said you are young and healthy (I’m not, I’m 32 and have fibroids) so just relax and have fun in the baby making department for the first 3 months. Then we’ll talk if nothing happens.
We didn’t discuss any of my questions. She told me I didn’t need to change anything. I guess all my questions I really don’t have to worry about until I am actually pregnant. I just worry a little and want to make sure everything can go as smoothly as possible.
When my friend’s SIL went to her pre-TTC appt she was told to bring her husband and they had a long dicussion. Including telling her husband not to keep his cell phone in his pocket, not to use a laptop on his lap, limit caffeine. And that was all for the guy.
Did anyone else’s gyn tell them to relax or did everyone’s else tell them some things they should and shouldn’t do?
Thanks for any advice. I’m sure I’m worrying over nothing.
Post # 3
@ajillity81: It sounds like you’re borrowing trouble. You don’t know that you have anything to worry about and I’m sure your doctor knows about the implications of stress on the body. Go into TTC with an open mind, believe that you will get pregnant, and make it a fun process – hopefully it will be! You don’t need to worry until you are given a reason to worry. So many things that women stress over never even happen!
Post # 4
@ajillity81: My cousin has PCOS with fibroids, and the doctor said she would probably never be able to conceive. After an agaonizing decision, she decided to start trying with her boyfriend this summer.
They got pregnant first month! She’s obviously being considered a high-risk pregnancy, but I agree with your doctor–go and have fun for your first few months of TTC! You really never know!
Post # 5
@ajillity81: My OB/Gyn just told me to start taking prenatals before I started TTC. Other than that, there was no long discussion. At the time, I wanted to ask questions, but now that I am KU, I really didn’t need more information than I got. I think it is just hard to not stress out about it and to not jump to conclusions that you are going to have a hard time. I think that fact that he wants to rediscuss things after 3 months if you aren’t KU yet is awesome; many won’t talk to you until a year!
Post # 6
@MrsPanda99: @BrandNewBride: thank you. i know i shouldn’t worry, sometimes it is hard not to.
i’m going to enjoy my honeymoon and hopefully have something to show for it when we get back…
Post # 7
@onyx81: yes, prenatals i started 2 months ago. when i told her, she was very pleased. i’m just going to take everyone’s advice and enjoy the BD process when the time comes.
Post # 8
how long have you been going to your OB/GYN? could you find another one for a second opinion?
i mean, your doctor is probably telling you to relax because stress has the opposite effect on all aspects of life. but if you’re truly unhappy, you could always ask a second opinion. i find it weird that she didn’t answer any of your questions.
Post # 9
My gyno told me to take pre-natals, eat healthy, and exercise. Check back in if I don’t get KU in a year.
I was expecting a whole long convo, but it was really short and informal! She didn’t want to do blood tests or anything.
Post # 10
@ajillity81: I have never heard of the cellphone and laptop thing. As long as you are taking a prenatal, maybe eating healthy and exercising a bit, you are doing what you can and your doctor is right that you should just relax and enjoy. 🙂
Post # 12
@ajillity81: I was also worried I would have difficulty as I had my AMH levels and they came in quite low for my age (1.4 ng/ml, should be around 3.4-3.6). So I was worried that my eggs were crappy. My naturopath told me to just have fun with it too. And guess what, I got my BFP the first month trying half-assed.
Post # 13
I agree with PPs in that you should really only be concerned after a while of TTC with no results, but I do find it concerning that she didn’t address any of your questions. It’s like she was dismissing your concerns.
If you felt uncomfortable or like she was dismissing you, I suggest finding a different gyno where you feel respected and all your questions are answered. Its just a matter of finding the right fit; if you’re the kind of person who comes to appointments armed with questions and need them answered for peace of mind, you probably need to find someone who takes you seriously.
Other than that, good luck! 🙂
Post # 14
@ajillity81: I’m in the same boat as you. I will be trying next october and I’m already worrying. My best friend has told me to calm down and just enjoy the trying. Unless we have been given a reason to worry, the undue stress vwill no doubt just make things worse!!!
Post # 15
You’re doctor is right. I am assuming you have never tried for a child before when I say this, but if that’s true then you have no reason to worry that you won’t get pregnant right away. It is normal for a perfectly healthy woman to take up to 1 year to conceive, so I don’t think it’s too much to just relax and have fun for the first 3 months. You never know what can happen.
That all being said, if you feel she is not attentive to your needs and was dismissive of your questions, then I’d find a doctor more compatible with you. I do think that many doctors would likely tell you the same thing from the get go. There’s no reason to worry about things that you don’t know if they will even happen yet.
Post # 16
@ajillity81: Mine said the same – only to also start taking pre-natal vitamins once I go off BC. She said 80% of couples get pregnant within a year, and if we haven’t by then to go back in.
I agree, stress can probably make it much harder so there’s no sense in the doctor making you worry over nothing.