(Closed) H working with his Ex Girlfriend right now, alone.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Does he take headshots? Is that his job?

I know it’s rough, but you have to trust him. Hopefully he proves worthy of that trust – business is business, and can easily be kept strictly professional, and, afterall, they broke up for a reason.

Post # 4
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

He should have consulted with you before taking the job. Unless you’re all on great terms with each other, it shouldn’t have even crossed his mind.

But, if you trust him, you should know that everything will be fine. Even if she makes a pass at him, he’ll turn her away. After all, you’re the one wearing the ring.

Post # 5
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

It’s ok!!  First, your feelings are normal and justified, so don’t feel bad about that at all.  He probably should have taken your feelings into consideration when you said you were uncomfortable.  But sometimes, I’ve found, guys need a little more direction than that, so I wouldn’t take it as an affront to you.  He probably just didn’t register how much of a problem this was for you.  Second, I think this just indicates how strong your relationship is.  Obviously, he didn’t think it was a problem at all, he most likely doesn’t even think of her as “his ex” anymore.  He just thinks of her as a girl he used to know, so taking her headshot isn’t at all weird.  I won’t tell you not to be annoyed, because I know you can’t help how you feel, but I do think you can just take a nice deep breath and remember how totally awesome you are (hence the reason you’re the wife and she’s the ex).  I’m sorry you’re having a rough day!!  ((hugs))

Post # 6
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That would piss me off too. I’m sorry.

Post # 9
1566 posts
Bumble bee

Is this just a one-time occasion, or a long term assignment? I think if it’s just one session, it’s not a big deal. It’s normal to be a bit worried, but you should trust him – throughout his life, he’ll have opportunities to cheat on you, and you can’t avoid every single one. He needs to be able to say no, even if she is his ex and looks like you and flirts with him. It’s part of  the commitment he made to you. 

If this is longer term, I think you’d be justified in asking him to stop working with her. 

Post # 11
4024 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

that would upset me too! Even though there is no reason to worry, I would still be pissed!!!! I’m sorry. I can’t really help make you feel better, so i will just get pissed with you! 🙂

Post # 13
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Maybe he’ll take you out to dinner witht he money?

You can’t choose your clients when you need the money!

Try not to get too upset. IT’s annoying, yes, but there’s nothing you can do. Relish in the fact that she’s an EX and he’s marrying YOU.

Post # 14
46 posts
  • Wedding: January 2011

If they just dated for a summer, then there’s nothing for you to doubt. Although, I don’t think you ARE doubting anything bout your Fiance, which is really good. This means that he probably just, as others have said, didn’t think of it as a big deal. Well, that’s super, right? It still sucks that you guys weren’t on the same page about how OK this was… But he loves you, is marrying you, and she may possibly not even care for him anymore. She may just need headshots and its easier to get photos from someone you know (comfort, etc). Do you have any reason to think she still would flirt with him?

Post # 15
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I second whoever said he should spend that money on you 🙂

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