Post # 1
I went in with my mother to just go “look” at dresses and styles without any idea of what I might like. I have always traditionally like the ball gown look, but my mother thought that a strapless dress was a terrible idea. After trying on about 10 dresses I put on a halter casablanca that made my mother cry. So thinking her reaction must mean it was “the dress” we purchased it… off the floor. It zipped up perfectly and looked great so I kept telling myself it was fate.
Thats when the second thoughts started coming… and coming and coming. It actually got to the point where I couldn’t sleep. I went back in and tried on my dress and my fears were confirmed; this was for sure NOT my dress. Luckily, even though returns are typically not accepted the owner let me try on different dresses with the agreement that the new dress would be purchased in the store, which was fine with me.
After trying on about 30 dresses (hey I wanted to be SURE this time) I put one on and it was perfect… the dress of my dreams. My question is, does this happen alot? Do women buy dresses and change their mind or is it just me being neurotic? Also the second dress was bought off the floor (being ordered it was a $2,000 dress which was twice my budget) and it was a little snug. If I lost about 10- 15 pounds i’m sure it would be fine but in the event I have to get it taken out will it look weird? I have heard nightmare stories about getting dresses taken out… I don’t want to ruin the dress it is a beautiful pronovias gown.
Sorry so long and thanks for the advice! The first (mistake) dress and second (perfect) dress are posted respectively.
Post # 3
I just did this too! Loved the first dress.. but the second dress I’m buying is my DREAM dress, the dress I’ll feel lovely and beautiful and special in.. I never thought I’d be a two dress bride.
Post # 4
I think you should wear the dress you really want and it sounds like that is the second dress.
If it makes you feel better, my dress was a sample (and it was 1-2 sizes too small when I bought it, but it was 40% off and I planned on loosing weight anyway). I’ve lost 17lbs since then, but they still needed to let it out a little bit in the bodice. I’m still going throught the fitting process, but they’ve let it out and it zips – now they just have to refit it to my body.
If the dress zips now, but is a little snug, you will have no problem losing a little weight and fitting into it.
Post # 5
Well that makes me feel a little better. I just remember in High School I got a prom dress and then lost like 30 pounds after starting to exercise. The dress looked TERRIBLE after getting it taken in… it was wavy on the sides and it was quite depressing. It makes me nervous still, but I’m going to trust that the seamstress can handle it if it has to be taken out.
I think yall are right… the most important thing is that I’m in love with the dress which I am.
Post # 6
PS- I’m from Texas too! I just moved to North Carolina 4 months ago to be with my fiance, who is in the military. I lived in the lake jackson area and worked in the Sugar Land area… man, I sure miss Texas =(
Post # 7
Love love love the second dress!
Post # 9
I bought my first dress a month after we got engaged (last July). Then this past March I saw a dress in a boutique window that I started crushing on. I didn’ty try it on because I knew I couldn’t afford it. then a fellow bee posted a pic of herself in the DB version of the dress. I couldn’t stop thinking about it, so I went to try it on…and I fell in love! I “liked” my first dress, but I love this one! I guess you could say it found me. = )
that said, I think the second dress is gorgeous!
Post # 10
That was me as well.. I only liked the first one.
Post # 11
Same thing happen to me! Got a sample dress that was GORGEOUS and SUCH a good deal (46% off!).
But I wanted lace, and the gown was brocade. The more I thought about it, the more I lost sleep on it, so ended up spending another grand for the lace one, and it’s perfect.
Post # 12
I got an awesome deal on both dresses… the second (pronovias) gown was originally just over $2,000 and I ended up paying around $600 for it all said and done. The first dress was $550…not much difference in price for that amazing feeling I got with the second =)
I was worried about the cost of the alterations too, but she told me that she would take the dress out (if needed) for around $40. I was AMAZED! I love living in a one horse town with only two bridal shops, it makes everything so much cheaper!
Post # 13
I think its pretty common, I did the same thing. The first dress I got was what I thought I should be wearing, it had ornate beading and a lot of details. Then I realized, I’m a simple girl, so I got a trumpet dress with a simple beaded sash at the bodice. I still wonder if its too plan but its what I liked! You’ll be happy once it fits just right. If they have to take it in just a bit, it should be fine.
Post # 14
jamiemichelle: You made the right choice, the second dress is absolutely gorgeous! I know the feeling of pressure when you’re getting more than your own opinion, and how bad you might feel for wanting a second dress. But you’ll be able to sell it, and you got a great deal!
It is absolutely crazy though how many brides this happens to. I’m trying my hardest not to look at other dresses, I know (think!?) that I loved my dress when it was on 🙂
Post # 15
well the good thing was I don’t have to sell the first one; she let me do a swap! It hadn’t had any alterations or anything.. the lady who owns the shop is really sweet. I would suggest her to anyone! She was really concerned that I was happy and broke her no exchange/ return policy for me =)
Now I only have a small balance to pay off on the new dress as it is a little more expensive.
Post # 16
What do you all do with the first dress if you end up buying a second? Sell it?