Had a falling out with one of my bridesmaids-do I reach out to her again?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

LB2015MB:  It’s been two days, over a major holiday weekend in the US, I suggest you relax and wait and see what happens. She has shown that she cares about you (checking to make sure you were not alone). Cut her some slack and assume that she too may have been otherwise occupied with Thanksgiving.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Are you or your fiancé having troubles with any of the other members of the bridal party? Are there any big problems with the other aspects of the wedding? If not, I see no reason to change your whole wedding. 

It would be sad if this one falling out caused the whole wedding to change. Your friend behaved rudely, if what you say is true, but that’s all on her, not you. You chose your other bridal party members for a reason, and removing all of them from the wedding because of this one person’s selfishness isn’t necessary. The same goes for the kind of wedding you’re having; you chose it for a reason, and there’s no sense in letting her actions change your plans. She’s one person. One person, who isn’t even the bride or the groom, shouldn’t be allowed to affect a wedding so much, not in such a negative way.

All of this happened recently, so I think waiting a bit longer and letting the dust settle would be a good thing to do. I also think holding off on making any changes to the bridal party or wedding would be a good idea.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I think she’s an ass for not understanding why your sis has the MOH title. Personally, I wouldnt reach out to her. She needs to be the one to apologize for this one. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

She checked up on you and wanted to make sure you didn’t spend the Holidays alone. despite your fight she is demonstrating that she still cares about your well-being. 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

She is way out of order for expecting to be given the MOH title, especially as you have given that to honour to your sister, and she should understand that. Wait for her to get back to you, you’ve done all the chasing and nothing wrong. You’ve got a while to go until the wedding, wait until you hear back from her. If you don’t, perhaps its worth inviting her round for a cup of tea and having an open and honest chat. If she still cant accept why she isn’t MOH, think about asking her to step down. If you do this however, bear in mind that your friendship is likely to be over, but more than that, do you really want her at your wedding when things are so tense? Maybe ask her not to come to the whole thing.

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