Had my 1st wedding related panic attack over the guest list

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

vip0802: I come from a similar ethnic background as you — are your parents helping, or are they putting it on your FI’s family? What are your FI’s family expectations?

Can you work the back channels and see if aunties, uncles, cousins can confirm the expected declines?

Since FI and I are paying for the whole thing, we’re not inviting the obligatory invites. We did offer to do a separate, obligatory reception and my mom said it wasn’t needed. Not sure if that helps at all, but wanted to share that it might be possible to find another way.

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m there! Our ceremony spot at our venue technically only holds 200. Well, by the time all was said and done, our invites added up to ~260 (not including the wedding party). I’m a little frustrated because our first draft of the guest list was more like 210 people, but between FI’s mom having to add more obligation invites and my family convincing us we had to add another branch of relatives so we wouldn’t seem rude, it got way out of control. I know there’s still a chance we’ll be fine, but I started getting RSVPs two weeks ago and have yet to get a decline- makes me so nervous!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Can you send the courtesy invites out a few weeks later than your regular invitations?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Our venue holds 250 comfortably, 300 max. We have about 400 we want to invite, a couple courtsey invites, and that’s already adults only! I sent out the first 300 today and will be sending the ones as soon as I get replies back. Hoping for several declines as well!

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